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3.59 (May work) from 7 votes (90 Visits)

parents at parties

by Dawn

(October 2007) (rank 56th)

Re: parents at parties?
Asked by winja
To begin with, you have left youself open! Parties especially those for children should have guidelines! Parents who have decent manners will ask if you need help! Rule of thumb is that when you invite a classroom of kids to

a party, you have to think of it as a sort of field trip and engage a least one parent for every 3/4 children that will be attending! Otherwise, you leave yourself wide open as a free babysitter for a few hours! What parent is not going to jump at that? My rule is that my son is allowed to invite 6 school friends to a party! This is because relations usually show up! I also do not believe you need to go into debt to have a decent party so therefore, we keep things simple! Dollar stores are a wonderous thing when it comes to a party! Just remember that you have to be the one that is in control and don't let the other parent use you for a door mat! Remind this boys parents that there will be alot of children there and in your condition you are going to need a few extra hands, and you would indeed be grateful if he could stay!After all you would do it for him should he ask right!
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hi guys another q hehe!
as most of you know im heavily preg atm, chloes bday is coming up and she wants it at hungry jacks or maccas with all her classmates and friends and family, this is fine with me or was......until i heard that a few ppl are just dropping their kids off ! um ok i would normally not care too much but chloes only turing 6 so most kids are that age or younger and il eitehr have a newborn or be still pregnant!
i pointed this out to one of the parents and he said that his kids will be fine and not to worry but they behave terribly ALL the time and if it was up 2 me i woudlnt invite them but its not its chloes party and she wants them there.
i asked him to stay for the party and he said if i dotn want to look after other ppls kids not to have a party at all coz all the parents around here leave when their kids go to parties.
what to do? i dont want to dissapiont chloe but im thinkin of not doing it now as i just wont be able to watch these kids on my own

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| Ngairi

Re: parents at parties

Rule of thumb is that when you invite a classroom of kids to a party, you have to think of it as a sort of field trip and engage a least one parent for every 3/4 children that will be attending!
I don't agree with this, but that is just me. I invite the whole class for a birthday party in preschool and Year 1. I do not expect, and more often than not, do not want parents to stay. But then it would depend on the type of person you are too, and whether you are able to control that many kids. i prefer having the bigger numbers, as if one or three do not want to play a game, they can sit out and it does not affect the rest of the kids. Too many times I have seen kids who like to hover around mum if she is there, and not want to participate.
I had one child at Connors Party this September, who had never been left before at a party without mum there, but she had an important appointment to go to and didn't want him to miss out. She explained to me that he is very shy and would probably cry for her if she wasn't there, left me her mobile phone number in case. The young boy was one of the most boisterous fun kids at the party. He had a ball. When mum sneaked back in before the finish time, she couldn't believe the way he was playing with everyone. And then he didn't want to go home.
BUT if parents want to stay I am not going to say no. I feel I cannot be my normal self if there are a pile of parents there. I will tell them where the coffee/tea is, if they want to make one (on the proviso they make one for me too). In winja's case, I would have help there, as she is so pregnant, but I think if you are having a party at HJ's or Maccas then the staff are there for supervision.

The rest of the ideas are fantastic, cheap stores are a godsend.
Leisa

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| etcircus

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I'm sorry but I have to disagree here. I believe the parents that offer to help are usually the ones who have the time to do so. A parent working full time may not be able to stay at your party (even when they REALLY want to) due to work or other obligations. It's not like most people ring around and see if everyone is free on the day of their party, they tend to just send out invitiations. As a clown, I attend hundreds of parties and have seen sucessful ones with the guest's parents present or absent, it can all come down to planning or the group dynamic. Some parents of birthday children prefer the parents NOT to stay as they don't want to be distracted by seating/feeding entertaining adults when the party is for the kids or they may not be able to afford to look after the adults too. I agree that the CONSIDERATE thing to do would be for the parents to attend the party as they would all know of the mum's condition in this instance. The problem on this occasion is that the heavily pregnant mum was used to parents staying at parties and assumed that they all would (which is understandable as she had not experienced parents not staying). Good point about the dollar stores. They are a children's entertainers best friend and have a great range of inexpensive party decorations, prizes and games :) I also agree that parties are just as fun when they are small and children aren't always expected to invite the whole class. I like the diplomatic way that you have suggested that the mother ask the boy's parent to stay :) Very smooth! :)

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| October 2007 \| FremantleDocker

Re: parents at parties

Totally agree, and well said. Great article. So true

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