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Getting rid of the dummy

stacey79 by stacey79 Talking Back(October 2007) (rank 98th)
There comes a time when the child has to let the dummy go.
There is no age that is said that "it has to go".;It depends on the child and the parents.Usally its the parents deciding when the dummy goes,but it is better if the child can decide.The dummy
can be a source of comfort,Stress relief and attachment.Taking it away cold turkey in a stressfull enviroment can have damaging side effects,The same as if you took the favorite bear or favorite blanket away from them.
Dont feel you have to get rid of it at a certain age ,Dont let society tell you what age is right and what age is wrong,it is dependant on the child.

When it comes to the the giving up a few little tips are

*If the child is ready try  not offering it to the child and try offering something else in return that does the same thing (as in comfort) ie blanket,teddy

*If not ready to give up dont push they will eventually,

*Thumb sucking is not a good substatute as it can cause damage to growing teeth (i have seen this happen  to a family friend)

*Something i did personally was once the last dummy was lost i never replaced it.
a friend of mine talked to her son about it and then one day he through it out the car window as they drove down the street,It worked he was ready to give it up.

But above all remember dont make them give up if they are not ready,Make it a big achievement when it is done,Like they accomplised something great.
Praise them for doing something without the dummy.

Just remember what you would do if some one told you,you had to give up your one stress reliver?comforter how would you react.
Never give in once started dont back peddle,Kepp at it it gets better over time.

 For more info
go to the raising childrennetworkaustralia

Not sure of the address my broswer isnt working properly
good luck thanks for reading
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pav
4.43 (Good) | October 2007 | pav
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
I told my daughter that Father Christmas gave more toys to 3 year old if they'd given up their dummy. For a month before Christmas she was having the dummy only at night. She was ready and excited. It went so well, I remember at the time I couldn't believe it. She was 3 and 2 months at the time.


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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thats a great idea pav
glad it worked
stace


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Domestic-warrior
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | Domestic-warrior
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
I've been wondering about this since my 7 month old uses one.  I never relied on them before but with him being my third child it has really helped us both out!  I don't know how i'm going to take it away, we'll cross that bridge when we come to it i guess....thanks Julie


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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
hi julie
my 16 month old still uses one if i tried to take it of her she would scream the house down (and girls seem to scream louder than boys lol) so i just let her go.She will give it up one day lol
good luck
stace


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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | llmunchkin
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
Good advice - we aren't dummy users, however at 21mths, Jaydee still has a bottle in the morning, and a bottle at night.  He uses a normal cup at lunch time for practice with water, and has sippy cups - however he takes comfort in his bottle and specifically asks for it.  I don't care if he is using it when he is 21 - as long as he is happy who cares?  LOL! .


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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thanks lui
my daughter is 15 nearly 16 months old and she still uses a bottle 3 to 4 times a day she uses a cup as well but she prefers the bottle lol
stace


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Kellzacar
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | Kellzacar
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
Great advice matey,

It's really important for parents to use their instincts when it comes to getting rid of the dummy. Sadly society seems to think it has a say but in reality it doesn't! . . . .

Cheers Kellz


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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thanks kellz


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ellamia
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | ellamia
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
Great advice Stacey, Totally agree i have a dummy girl shes 19 months and we cant get rid of it as yet. On the other hand Mia who needs the dummy wont have a bar of it.

Well written

Thanks

Kelly


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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thanks kelly
my 2nd son was in need of a dummy but never took lol
stace


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emmie
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | emmie
Re: Getting rid of the dummy

great article

cheers

 



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      stacey79
October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thanks emmie


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Izzy
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | Izzy
Re: Getting rid of the dummy

Great advice. Parenting comes with a lot of stresses, I think taking away the pacifier from a child shouldn't have to add to it. YOu're right, we shouldn't force the issue. I mean, can you imagne having something that you've had for a very very long time taken away from you in an instant? That would be stressful..and imagine putting the same stress on a child.

My 2 1/2 year old has a pacifier, though he goes all day long (while at school) without it. I'm trying to figure out how to get rid of it and I'm thinking I may try something at christmas time. Maybe I can get him to give it to Santa. If that doesn't work, I delay it and try with the Easter bunny. LOL



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      stacey79
5.00 (Excellent) | October 2007 | stacey79
Re: Getting rid of the dummy
thanks for the comment izzy.
i hope it works with santa or the easter bunny.
good luck
stace


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