SO YOU HAVE DECIDED TO MAYBE HAVE A BIRTH WITHOUT ANY ASSISTANCE WELL HERE ARE SOME THINGS THAT MIGHT HELP YOU WITH ANY CONCERN YOU MIGHT HAVE AND ALSO ANY QUESTIONS YOU MAY HAVE .
IAM DUE TO HAVE MY 5TH CHILD IN 20 DAYS AND I HAVE DECIDED
TO HAVE A HOME BIRTH WITHOUT ANY ASSISTANCE SIMPLY BECAUSE I SEEM TO FEEL MORE STRESSED WHEN I HAVE DOCTORS AND NURSES BEING DEMANDING AND TELLING ME WHAT TO DO WHEN ITS NOT ALWAYS THE BEST OPTION.
HERE ARE 7 REASONS WHY YOU WOULD WANT A HOME BIRTH
1.THEY TELL YOU NOT TO PUSH WHEN YOU CANT HELP BUT DO SO AND YOU TEND TO FEEL MORE PAINWHEN TRYING TO STOP THAT FEELING .
2.THEY ARE ALWAYS CHECKING HOW DIALATED YOU ARE WHEN ITS NOT ALWAYS NECESSARY SINCE THE BABY WILL COME WHEN IT FEELS LIKE IT .
3.ANNOYNG TESTSTHAT COULD KEEP YOU STILL FOR HOURS
4.NOT BEING ALLOWED TO MOVE FREELLY LIKE YOU WANT TO .
5.NOT BEING ABLE TO CHOOSE THE POSITION YOU WANT CAUSE ITS NOT THE BEST OPTIO FOR THE MIDWIFE
6. YOU HAVE A LARGE FAMILY AND WOULD LIKE TO HAVE THEM PRESENT BUT THE HOPITAL WONT LET YOU.
7. MIDWIFES OR HOME BIRTH NURSES COST A WOPPING $3000 OR MORE MONEY NOT ALL OF US HAVE .
some questions you may worry about like i did many times about what could happen is
WHAT HAPPENS IN AN EMERGENCY
SPECIALLY IF I BLEED DURING LABOUR HOW DO I KNOW IF ITS HAPPENING :
- Repeated, profuse bleeding on and off.
- Fainting or passing out
- Dizziness or nausea
- Shock (pale, sweaty, weak, faint, dizziness, nausea breathing hard or thirsty)
- Strange pains that are not a part of birthing
MAYBE YOUR WORRIED YOU MAY BLEED TO DEATH LIKE I DID AFTER THE BIRTH IS ENDED:
IF THIS IS THE CASE WATCH OUT FOR :
More than 2 cups (500ml) of blood lost
Fainting or passing out
Dizziness or nausea
Shortness of breath
The fundus may seem to be expanding
DO NOT PULL ON THE CORD UNTIL YOUR SURE THAT THE PLACENTA HAS COME LOSE FROM THE UTERUS .I PERSONALLY WOULD FEEL MORE CONFERTABLE TO GIVE BIRTH BUT LEAVE THE PLACENTA DELIVERY FOR THE PROFESSIONALS AT THE HOPSITAL JUST TO BE ON THE SAFE SIDE.
ANOTHER FEAR IS THE BABY NOT BREATHING STRAIGHT AFTER BIRTH IN THIS CASE DONT PANIC
If the baby is purple, red, pink, holding arms and legs stiff, making faces, or just has pale blue/white arms/legs, just wait. He/she will breathe.
You can assist by keeping the baby warm, skin to skin, talking to the baby, rubbing the baby’s back, laying the baby face down over your thigh with their bum higher than their head to faciliate mucus drainage.
However if a baby is;
- pale blue or white
- limp
- looks almost dead
Start mucus clearing and resusication efforts while an ambulance is called.
To clear mucus, suck it out of their mouth and nose gently, and/or have them laying on their belly, upside down on your leg while you rub their back talking to them.
Flick at the soles of the baby’s feet with your fingertips to encourage a gasp reflx.
WHEN IN DOUGHT RESEARCH .JUST REMEMBER many women for centurys have beedoing this without any assistance and they still do .many live in countries like africa some in australia that cannot get to a hopspital in time .
its is your choice and yours alone all doctors will tell you that its dangerous and not advised to do it but thats what they have to tell you cause they dont want women to do it in case something goes wrong but a woman knows her body beter than any doctor .
iam not saying ignore doctors but go with your instincts i ahve had 3 hospital births and they have been nothing but stressful for me as all i hadwas women who i did not know touch and tell me what to do when all i wanted was to be left alone to do what i had to do ,while with my daughter she was delivered at home and hubby was the one that helped her into the world and it was the best thing that ever happen to me and iam wanting to experice just that again with my latest pregnancy.
like many i have the same fears but just follow your instincts as they will kick in without your knoledge i found that out when my daughter was born when she was not breathing staight away i never new cpr but for some reason i new how to get her breathing .
here are a few things that my come through your mind :
. my husband or partner wont let me ----- remenber who has to go through the pain he can ask you to choose a hopsital but in the long run its you who has to go through the pain.all he needs i reasurance ,maybe show him some pictures and info of other women who have done home births and were ok ,or simply watch some video clips through u tube with him .reasurance is the best thing .
.its a risky thing to do : well everything is this days .
if you are free to follow your instincts in labour and birth, you are more likely to avoid potential problems. Without anyone to tell you what to do, you are less likely to change into positions that aren't ideal for you or do things that go against the flow of labour.
Also in avoiding distractions and fully submerging yourself into your body, birth and instinctive nature, you are more likely to be aware when something is seriously wrong and the right course of action to take for the specific situation.
DOCS may take my child away ?: wrong they cann do anything this is a birthing choice there is nothing they can do about it .
have your check ups with your doctor to make sure the baby is growing well,have your normal tests during pregnancy and if you get the all clear then there is nothing stopping you .write a birthing choice to your doctor and tell him what your going to be doing and reasure him if anything goes wrong you will come to the hopital,but dont let them make you feel guilty .this is your body your baby .
you may think its to painful and you may need pain relief :
There are many ways to cope with pain at home. Many women have found birthing at home to be less painful than birthing in an environment where they are seen as being a victim to the birth process and offered pain relieving drugs rather than support and reassurance.
How humans percieve pain is different within each individual, but the common consenus seems to be that if you are in an unfamiliar, uncomfortable environment, being in pain is harder to deal with .
here are a few things to have in hand when trying to be prepared for a home birth :
1. have your partner or a friend there just for support ,or to get on the phone with the ambulance .
2.have some towels ready
3. get yourself a pool in case you would like to give birth in the water,or just use the bath .
4. have 2 cord clamps(which you can purchase from ebay )only use this after the unbilical cord stops pulsating .
5.have a large excercise ball which can help you with your hips .
6. have a bottle of water to keep your liquids up.
7. have rose rose scented smells around the house and your favourite music for relaxation.
8.breath easy and take your time during the birth ,have your partner or friend have a watch to count your contractions .
8.walk around the house if you feel like it .
9. as soon as you feel like pushing call the ambulance that way you have back up in case of emergency .
10.have some natural remedy in case you get stressed and have anxiety.
11. if you have a fear of pain maybe get yourself a TENS MACHINE which will help you with some pain relief or even just some warm towels for your back .
12. as soon as the baby is born clean its nose and mouth from mucus and if he /she dont cry staright away or within 60 seconds do the ol fashion trick by turning them up side down and give them a nice bottom smack that always gets them breathing lol.
well good luck everyone and remenber birth is your choice your the boss .
(October 2007) (
