children are people too...

often in our busy hectic world were everyone wanted everything done yesterday, our little people tend to get pushed and shoved and hurried along without a single thought of how they feel or what they want...not all parents stop and think how will this affect my little person or what

i know all to well the frustrations that come along with parenting and that "sometimes it's just easier if i do it" as aposed to waiting those few extra minutes for my little ones to finish said task. at times parents push the independance on children with extra curriculum activities but then baby them by doing simply day to day task that little people can actually do for them selves maybe just slower then we would like. this regular occurence of being pushed to do well at times when the parent would recieve praise eg soccer, dancing or schooling a little one can become easily overwelmed and frightened,  as when a parent does simply tasks like drying a little one ( 4+ years) because it gets done " properly"  along with tasks like pouring water into a drinking cup, brushing their hair etc this belittles the child and makes them feel inadeqate and they then don't try to do things for them selves later as thay believe they can't when in actual fact they can and they should be allowed to go at their pace and make messes as this teaches them to do it right and as their confidence grows they will become faster.

just like us our little people have feelings that dictate their behaviours and they have thoughts which need to be heard and they have a basic right to be treated as you would like to be treated... if you made a mess or a mistake at work would you want your boss to come flying out of their office in your face screaming about the screw up and then hit/spank  you? would you (the grown up) like your parents to come and dress you simply because it got it done quicker? if you answer no to lease things and many other scenarios then why would you do this to your child... yes they may need assistance but let them ask for it first don't ever just assume they want a quick fix from mum or dad, yes their is going to be mess when you let children learn to do things for them selves but they need to learn sometime and you can't honestly say you thought parenting would be mess free do you?...

our children are people too yes they are slower yes they are messy but they will learn more through a guiding parent who allows for the learning through hands on as aposed to the controlling parent who dictates everything to them....my advice here today is walk hand in hand with your child allow the time needed to succeed at their pace not yours be their friend enjoy their messes and learn as they learn because your nest will be empty before you now it and you don't want to look back and know that you fightened or upset your child because that is what they'll remember when they are grown better they remember mum or dad asking hows it going as aposed to this is how it is. our children are here to live with us not for us to live through them and if you don't foster a self sificent child who has learnt through care and guidences you will have an adult who cannot live a full an meaningful life.

they may be small but they feel, think and need just as we do so please stop take time and enjoy....

happy parenting