Children and growing up...The first teen to move out...

Well it has been a while since I have written advice but I thought it was  high time I did some again to once again share something with the Minti community that I have recently experienced myself... My eldest Child Aidan has moved out of home...He is 17 and a bit of a wild child and thought the rules would be easier out so he made the decision to move...

I was a little shocked when he came home and told me he was leaving to move in with a mate of his and his mates brother...I had these feelings of sadness and happiness and just shock all running around in my body at once...This happened in the beginning of October...Things have not been perfect but hey they are improving and he seems to be flourishing with his mates and able to live his own life...

The house here seems to be staying cleaner and quieter LOL...No mates around all the time after parties and no loud mates around before parties either...It has not been easy watching him become independent but I thought I would write some things to help other parents to deal with this when their first teen moves out....

Make sure where they are moving to is a safe environment...Like check out who they are moving in with...Make sure they are not some big time drug dealers or something like that hehe..

Sit down with your child and the people they are moving in with and find out exactly what the rent and expenses are...Food, Electricity etc....

I suggest that when your child goes that you let them take everything in the room...Aidan has told me that it has been good to have his familiar stuff around when he gets a bit homesick...

Keep in constant contact with them and help them where you can...We have had to buy a bit of food to go in the house for Aidan etc...

There is a huge amount of things that you can do to help them but most of all make sure you tell them the door is always open if they choose to come home...

I thought Aidan was a little young to move out but was kind of excited and sad at the same time...I have seen a few of my friends fight their kids about them moving out and all it does is make their lives hard with a child who doesn't want to be there...So as hard as it is to let them have their full independence so young I say let them go and try if that is really what they want and keep the relationship you have with them now...It seems to be working wonders right now with my son and I...

This is just a few things I wanted to put out there for all to read so thanks for taking the time to read this...

Take care all
Have a great day..
Cheers
Angie