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Children and growing up...The first teen to move out...
Well it has been a while since I have written advice but I thought it was high time I did some again to once again share something with the Minti community that I have recently experienced myself... My eldest Child Aidan has moved out of home...He is 17 and a bit of a wild child and thought the rules would be easier out so he made the decision to move...
I was a little shocked when he came home and told me he was leaving to move in with a mate of his and his mates brother...I had these feelings of sadness and happiness and just shock all running around in my body at once...This happened in the beginning of October...Things have not been perfect but hey they are improving and he seems to be flourishing with his mates and able to live his own life...
The house here seems to be staying cleaner and quieter LOL...No mates around all the time after parties and no loud mates around before parties either...It has not been easy watching him become independent but I thought I would write some things to help other parents to deal with this when their first teen moves out....
Make sure where they are moving to is a safe environment...Like check out who they are moving in with...Make sure they are not some big time drug dealers or something like that hehe..
Sit down with your child and the people they are moving in with and find out exactly what the rent and expenses are...Food, Electricity etc....
I suggest that when your child goes that you let them take everything in the room...Aidan has told me that it has been good to have his familiar stuff around when he gets a bit homesick...
Keep in constant contact with them and help them where you can...We have had to buy a bit of food to go in the house for Aidan etc...
There is a huge amount of things that you can do to help them but most of all make sure you tell them the door is always open if they choose to come home...
I thought Aidan was a little young to move out but was kind of excited and sad at the same time...I have seen a few of my friends fight their kids about them moving out and all it does is make their lives hard with a child who doesn't want to be there...So as hard as it is to let them have their full independence so young I say let them go and try if that is really what they want and keep the relationship you have with them now...It seems to be working wonders right now with my son and I...
This is just a few things I wanted to put out there for all to read so thanks for taking the time to read this...
Take care all
Have a great day..
Cheers
Angie
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The first one moving out has to be really scary. My oldest is 17 too and although she hasn't moved out yet, her and her bf do talk about getting their own place...but then they realize it's expensive to live on their own lol. Good luck with your adjustment..but as like a friend of mine says when they move out dont change the locks because they may be back sooner than you expect. Hang in there, Barb
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Good sensible tips Angie, and I am sure it was a shock - however you can move out at 17 and survive quite nicely (said with experience). I am sure that knowing he has your support, and that he is welcome home anytime are great for him too.
Thanks for sharing your advice on this, and I hope everything works out for Aidan as he spreads his wings, cheers - Lui.
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That was excellent advice. Yeah, i say, if they're ready to move out at that age, let them do it and let them experience the outside world for them selves etc. You're right in what you did about letting your eldest go, because then i see it as a trust thing, and he will thankyou later for it in life.
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Thanks Angie. I will be needing this advice in the near future I am sure. My son is getting itchy feet early too. When he gets his licence next year I imagine he will be like Aiden as he is talking of it already. I really want him to wait til his apprentiship is over but I see your point. Hope it all goes well for him, Lynette xx
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Great advice! I can't wait to move out as well (just another year! YEEEEEEEY)...the problem is I'll be moving in another city...pretty far from this one...But my mom agrees...She think like u...and she know that I'm leabing for college...Anyway...I really love what adivces you give...As we say ...YOU ROCK! ;)
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I admire you for the way you handled it. I hope I would support my daughter like that one day. I'm dreading it though... even though it's quite a few years ahead...
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Great to see you Angie
Great advice too
I have had two of mine move out, one in a sad way and we have no contact and one in a good way, where we still speak most days and I see her lots and can see she is happy with BF. Her BF is as much as this family as is possible, I think very highly of him he is like a son in law to me and the boys call him their big brother seeing that their blood brother isn't around
Hope to see you again very soon
xxx
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That is fantastic advice Angie. I know I will be using it when mine finally move out, although they keep telling me that they will stay til they get married! OMG! LOL
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and great tips too will have to keep it in mind 
