Its so simple isn't it to look at someone else's life/family/children/decisions/problems......
the list is never ending !
And that thought comes into our minds
"Thats not what I would do!!!!"
I have, since my separation, and the smear campaign that Ex has successfully masterminded,
learnt an extemely valuable lesson in life
DON'T JUDGE OTHER PEOPLE !
OK I admit it, I am Human after all, I do slip up occasionally and find myself making judgements on other people/situations, but generally my new motto is :
"Its Not For Me to Judge!"
During the smear campaign I am living through, my emotions can range from :
ANGER- That someone can think that of me!!!!!
to
HURT- That someone can think that of me!!!!
to
AMAZEMENT- That someone can think that of me!!!!
Its very easy for others to say Ignore It!!!!
But sometimes you just can't!!! The Hurt and Betrayal goes way to deep
We can make such simple changes to the way we communicate with others, so that our opinions and ideas are not Judgements
For Instance:
This is What You Should Do.......
This is what I did and it worked for me........
Unless we see/hear/catch a potentially dangerous situation
Who/What gives us the right to jump in and say
"Dont do it like that!!!"
During my marriage I was constantly told where I was going wrong or what I should be doing,
I took it as Human Nature that we could all behave like that
So many times over the years I have given my opinion when it was neither wanted or asked for
Ironically I used to be the one hurt if they didn't listen,
How self righteous is that!
My daughter has some friends that have an "interesting" History
They are grown up now but at one time I used to stand in Judgement of them as being bad people
Now all I need to remember is
I TRUST MY DAUGHTER AND I TRUST HER CHOICES/DECISIONS
Life is honestly so much simpler if we only take on our own problems
We are not answerable for anything others say or do
We are only answerable for our own words and actions
So why should we worry if others are doing things in a different way to us
Isn't learning all about a Journey of Discovery
the discovery of Parenting being what works and what doesn't work for OURSELVES not others
Every so often we start Judging other Members on this site too
Why?
Do we honestly believe that Everyone else is wrong whereas we are always right?
I Love Minti
I love the people of Minti
I love the advice of Minti
But I dont like the Judgements that we are all capable of doing on here
So lets STOP Judging and CONTINUE Sharing
(November 2007) (
