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There are so many members of Minti, that a huge range of advice, comments, and questions are posted. When you read these, you may wish to add a comment of your own. Sometimes you may wish to add your opinion, more information, ask for more details, disagree, or merely say
thank you. Many people just comment for the sake of it; to give support to the author by acknowledging their effort. Sometimes comments can be used to give advice as well; if you want to establish yourself as someone who consistently has valuable and helpful opinions, here are some points to consider.
Information Overload – Don’t Believe Everything You Hear…
Or read for that matter, take the time to do some research and find out whether or not you are being told the truth by people. Are they being honest about themselves, and the things they write? Even if you hear something from what you believe to be a trusted source, remember that nobody is infallible. Ignorance is no excuse for you to make a poor decision as we can choose whether to seek more details or not. Enable yourself to make empowered decisions and to form opinions based on the truth - use the tools below, and any other method you can thing of to find factual information.
Research is so easy for all of us, we have so many resources readily available.
- The internet – search trusted sites, specialist sites, email companies, your friends and acquaintances, or post questions in forums.
- Books - read as many as you can on the topic – use your own, a friend’s or go to the library.
- Word of mouth - ask your friend’s, family and acquaintances use their experience and knowledge to help guide you.
- Inside information - Look up companies and people who may know more on the topic and ask them for more details.
- Your own personal life experience – learn to trust yourself and your own gut instinct when making a final decision.
Knowledge is power; the power to make informed decisions based on your research, your own life experience and your judgment is invaluable. Don’t simply agree with something because you were told it was so, use your brain and find out the truth. There is no excuse for ignorance with so many forms of information media at our fingertips. Don't be afraid to disagree with the majority - especially if you are passionate about a subject, and know your facts. Life is full of different experiences, and your experience and opinion is valid, especially if your input is enlightening, and solution based.
Be True To Yourself - Don't Be A 'Yes' Person...
Establish yourself as a good honest, reliable person by being consistent in what you say and do. Decide what traits are important to you in a person, and look for people like that to send friend requests to. You don’t need to be liked by everyone, as long as you have personal integrity in all that you say and do. Many people do anything to get attention, and this short term fix can be quite damaging to their reputation, and eventually their self esteem.
Poor decisions that people make in order to be popular:
- Follow blindly – in order to please other’s and be accepted, people put aside their own belief system and either follow the leader, or the pack.
- Being two faced – saying one thing and doing another, pretending to be a friend only to learn secrets about someone. Even if you say nice things and only think bad things that contradict this, you are still lying. Lying becomes a habit, and lying to yourself promotes unhealthy inner dialog, and low self esteem.
- Gossiping – it becomes a habit, and usually involves divulging other people’s secrets, telling stories that aren’t substantiated, and trying to influence other people. Eventually, nobody will trust you, and you will be ostracised - even by people who care for you.
- Attention seeking - being a drama queen about all life's ups and downs, twisting the truth and acting like a victim, when you are being vindictive. It's childish and silly, and people eventually ignore you - so when you really need support, you are often ignored.
- Lying about yourself - making up stories to make you seem more interesting, or outright lies to make you seem nicer. The truth always surfaces, be yourself, if that isn't good enough for someone else; it is your lucky escape, and their loss.
Essentially people who are displaying the above-mentioned traits are fake, and real people can only be fooled for so long. They are neither being true to themselves of their friends, family, colleagues or acquaintances. It is very unhealthy, as it causes inner stress and it can lead to a lot of heart ache. People make some very silly decisions when they are caught in this situation, and their integrity can be permanently damaged.
By being a person who thinks for themselves; conducts themselves with integrity, and remains open to continued learning, you are also being a valuable member of any community.
(November 2007) (
Julie
