Not much is spoken about miscarriage. Medical practioners know very little and research hasn't been that helpful. Miscarriage and the meaning why women miscarry is largely a mystery. There is a great thorough article on miscarriage
already on minti so I just wanted to talk about the feelings I went through personally and what you may expect if you happen to be in this situation. Remember its not your fault. Most people say they want a healthy baby at the end of their pregnancy. Most of the time the baby isn't healthy and miscarriage is nature's way of ending the pregnancy. Some women have miscarriages very early on and wouldn't know as they may menustruate a few days late.

I had a miscarriage in 2002. I went to the hospital when I was suffering with cramps and was bleeding. An internal ultrasound found the foetus and even a heartbeat at almost 9 weeks. We were hopeful but a week later there was no sign of a pregnancy and I had a D&C (Dilation and Cutterage) which only takes 5-10 minutes in surgery. They said I didn't need one as they thought it would all pass on its own but I am glad I had one.  Afterwards I felt better and stopped bleeding straight though it is common to continue to bleed.

My latest pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. I was again almost 9 weeks and went to the hospital after severe bleeding and the passing of the foetus which was quite traumatic for me. This time I didn't have a D&C but as the bleeding has lessened I don't think I will need one.

Miscarriage is suprisingly common yet is a very real experience, not only physically but also emotionally. Its okay to grieve and take time to cry.