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Terrible 2's |
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by pfool  (November 2007) (rank 500+) |
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Re: terrible 2's
Asked by
Staceycrid
Question:
Ok my son has hit the terrible 2's and has decided it is fun to hit mum and dad. I can say no don't hit and all that till I'm blue in the face. I've tried
putting him in a "naughty" spot but he doesn't understand the concept and just gets up and does it again.
How can I stop him from hitting and kicking me?, I am having a hard time dealing with it and sometimes stopping him as I am 22 weeks pregnant and not so fast on my feet. He has never really been violent he doesn't do it to other kids just to me mostly when I am telling him off or its bed time the usual tantrum times. I guess it is normal for a 2 year old frustrated boy to act this way. But is there an easier way of getting through the terrible twos without too much stress?
My Advice:
Plan and simple, he's doing it for your attention. Sometimes parents are given suggestions about putting their child in the "Naughty spot" I personally rather call it the "Time Out" or "thinking" (for older children) spot, only because I believe that children are not Naughty as such they just need guidence and disipline in an effective way. Yes you have tried putting him in the "spot" but have you put him there EVERY time he hits? Have you put him back EVERY time he gets off it? It only takes one time when he hits for you and one time to allow him to get up that he will think he has gotten away with it. Don't be affraid to show him you are the boss or it will get worse and he will start ruling over you. If he gets up fifty times you put him back fifty times till he realises who is in control. Do it persistantly for one week, then you will find the hitting will either stop or slow down and may need to persist a little longer.
Always give a warning first ."Time out if you hit Mummy" Then when he hits, don't say ANYTHING(even when he gets up when not suppose to) til he finishes his time, dont give him that attention that he's after. Then when he's finished, tell him what he did wrong "You hit mummy, not nice" Then ask for cuddle and give him the attention then. Good luck, I hope you persist with it.
