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Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY? |
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Merry Christmas..Ho Ho Ho
For Newbie's and Oldies
For those in-between thinking of leaving because of another's rude or thoughtless comments.
Minti is a funny place:
If you look at what I've written, you will find I wrote clearly please Minti me if you have questions or concerns in anything I've written, why, because I screwed up. The numbers, comments and votes don't make a hoot to me, nor do the nasty, bitchy, argumentative people who have nothing better to do with their time than to gossip and spend their day here on Minti thinking they are better mothers, better workers, better everything...ya they are better at nothing, just bully's who need to build themselves up on another's painful experiences with their "OPINIONS" and "THEIR RIGHT TO THEIR OPINIONS'.
THINK: How would you feel to be on the receiving end of YOUR OPINION before you post??? Have some empathy for all who are just trying to make it through the day, NOT PERFECTLY...Sorry, only God is Perfect!
Think Think Think and then Think again before blasting off and clicking that little button...clicking those little stars....making a snide remark in your blog for the world to read....really get a GRIP on reality as it is NOT at the end of your nose it is posted on MINTI for the world to read!
UGH, I'm Disgusted with the nastiest, especially at this time of year when emotions run high...many painful memories come up from the past! JUST MY HONEST OPINION.
NEW MEMBERS:
Get past the need to 'be friends' with every one, take what you like and leave the rest, you will be much happier. If you can get past 'expectations' you will be much happier. If you write on Minti for You, and with an open heart to help others, You will be much happier. The stars are fun, the numbers are fun, the badges are fun...just remember there are real people, with real feelings behind those other numbers, stars and badges.
In-between's thinking of leaving:
Personally, I've been where you are, and very upset by some things that happened early in my membership. Not to mention what continues to happen with cackling hens who are just mean, or those who's skin is so sheer they need to get a life and stop whinnying. It was hard for me in the beginning, I was humbled, I fessed up to my mistake. I was sorry, and said so. Then let go, I'd done what I could from my heart through my hand to make peace. If you feel wronged, think about the millions of cyber groups, people etc. There are not many like Minti, even with it's foibles, so take a "Minti break" and come back in a month, when there is less holiday stress slamming you left and right. Some one wants to be voted off...I'm voting you off because you have a right to remove your profile and yourself from Minti. If I "oh please stay" all this does is to ensite more animosity, attention etc. rather than to find out what help can be made to correct the pain, mistake or whatever with maturity, THROUGH MINTI MAIL.
Let go of expectations!!!.
Get Real!!! Be Honest!!! YOU will not like everyone here. Not Everyone here might like you! Does it matter in the Grand Scheme of Life NO...what matters only is what is in your heart, and how you behave towards others...
A Rule for Life: by John Wesley
Do all the good you can, By all the means you can, In all the ways you can, In all the places you can, At all the times you can, To all the people you can, As Long as ever you can.
Reach for Your Star to help others to reach their star along the roller coaster of life and be with them in the deep loops when 'they ask for your help' advice given when not asked for can be viewed as an insult to another's ability to make their own choices and live their own life.
Take care, Simba1
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
Thank you for your comment Jodie. I'm so glad you feel this way, as I do also. There are over 22,000 members on Minti, as I understand from another post here by Janice...a wonderful example of friendship and kindness of minti and how minti works.
What prompted this advice, as it is titled was the departure of another wonderful gal, who I did not ever read an unkind word from who felt as though her comments/advice/blog etc were being voted down, and her feelings were hurt. After writing back and forth, her explaination of the 'fast clicking, rude comments' was clear, so this prompted my advice.
It is my hope the future of minti will be filled with wonderful advice for anyone who seeks help in a time of need, that there will be an answer or a minti mom who has shared her experience through advice or in real time blogs to promote the well being of another who needs a shoulder.
Happy New Year!!
Take care, ML
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
Thank you "Cheeky" Michelle....love the name!!!
Yup, had to send off an I'm sorry yesterday to a sweet gal...I feared she was leaving Minti, this prompted what I wrote, and the poor dear thougth she was reported when I sent her and the other gal a curtusy e-mail of my writings!!
So easy is it to make a mistake, and it is just as easy to write " I'm sorry for my error" and mean it, learn from the mistake to take care not to repeat again....I'm forever saying sorry, and trying to learn how to speak with a gentler voice with ds...I'm so lucky he loves me, forgives me, and lets go...hoping we can all be a bit more like children here at Minti...as Children is the driving force of Minti, and the Mom's at the wheel are Great!!!
Hoping you have a Wonderful Holiday, and Healthy New Year!
Take care, Simba1
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
((Julie))
Back in October I read a wonderful advice article you wrote on "How Will They Remember you"
This brought home to me so many memories, and thoughts of how i parent John. My friend, who's name I love..."Domestic Warrior" symbolizes to me, yes, being a Mom is like being a warrior...against all the pain, fears, rights and wrongs of our times to protect, guide, and love our kids the best we can each day...Even those days when, speaking for myself, I feel like an "Appachie Indian" on the War Path...LOL
All my best to you and to yours for Christmas and for a Healthy, Happy New Year!!
Take care, Mary Louise
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
AMEN to that sentiment Janice, I too felt sad to write what I did, however I read a response that was so venimous to others, I could not help myself. Many could learn Alot from your writing, for your heart clearly shines through your written words, with kindness, with love and with compassion.
God Speed! Happy Holidays, and For a Wonderful Healthy New Year to You and Hubby!!!
Sent with much Love and appreciation for your kind words, friendship, and soft shoulder since I became a member in August.
Love, Mary Louise
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
Merry Christmas Cazza!
How true, I know I've learned so much from many different articles of advice I've read. From the painful experiences, I've learned much gratitude for where I am and for what I have. I continue to learn each time I click the website minti, and have grown so much by being a member of this community of 22,000 as Janice wrote.
Simply by knowing full well, I need help and am not ashamed to ask for help, nor to reach out to others who might be in need or who have a common bond with me through our kids. I've learned sometimes a stranger can have a wonderful perspective "outside the emotional embroilment" when I'm stuck somewhere in my head, or with parenting John.
Feeling quite mushy today, my emotions are teary, but will much joy I send the wishes for a Healthy, Happy New Year to You and to Yours! You are truly a wonderful example of love by bringing children into your home who would otherwise be in an institution...
Take care, Mary Louise
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Re: Another one bites the dust...and another one gone...WHY?
You have said it well. There are times when I feel like I'm back in high school, but I stay neutral, observe and listen to everyone. My opinions are never formed on hearsay. I have to have facts, the more the better.
Being neutral, open minded and having no expectations is how I approach most things in life. Heck, parenting, I knew, was going to be hard, and I prepared for that. No one could tell me how hard it would be, I had to learn it for myself.
Tolerance is something our world is losing at an alarming rate. Everyone is in such a hurry, that they don't even notice the little things any more. Here on Minti, the community may be growing, but it is still a community. That is, we use the same resources and have to share.
Thanks for writing this Mary-Louise. You are one of the members that really does think much the same as me! lol.
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