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Why do we as we grow into adulthood
Put conditions on our love
A child is the perfect example of showing Unconditional Love
Even an abused child, still loves their parent deeply
They just don't like the actions inflicted on them
but it
doesn't kill the love
I believe that every child deserves to live a life of Unconditional Love by their parents
Why should a child have to earn love from their parents
even sadder why do abused children feel it is part of their own inadequacies and failings that give their parents the rights to abuse them ?
Love for a child is not a reward they have to earn
It should be theirs by right
Naturally there are instances where through no fault of their own the parents are unable to provide instant love, but its not instant love I am referring to, its that deep gut feeling of knowing you would do anything to help your child, not because its your duty but because such is the love you have for them, you cannot bear for them to suffer in any way.
A few years ago I used to co run a Parent Toddler Group, it affected me deeply on one occasion when I heard a child, come up to his Mum, put his head in her lap and say "I Love You!" only for the Mum to say "Yea, well I will love you too if you stop being such a brat at home!!"
It sent chills down my spine, she must have seen my look of horror as she told me she was only playing with him
i was too spineless to say anything else but the memory has always stuck
Even in fun, we should never joke about our love for the child
they should always know they have our love no matter what
If we don't show our children the blessings of having unconditional love
How are they going to measure love through the rest of their life
Do we want our children to think love is a measure where depending on the good things you do, the rewards you earn, then the love measure goes up????
Love for our child should always be totally Unconditional
No ties, No debts, No favours.........
A parents love is their rock solid foundation through life and the roots must be deep and firm
(December 2007) (
