Lessons in Life - Free Will

We all have a FREE WILL

Learning how to use that Free Will wisely

Is an Art !

Teaching your child about Free Will

Is the Free Will of us as parents

But, if not taught correctly..........you will suffer


Even the youngest of babies can show their independence from a very early age, as a parent of a daughter who was born independent, it does make parenting an even harder battle. But unless we tune into their interpretation of free will and monitor the childs use of their free will.......we end up with spoilt and nasty brats!!!!

A child who runs their life around their own free will so that they are the ones who benefit, will find making friends very hard, learning somewhat pointless and family participation a waste of time.
They are learning to use their free will for selfish means
Their interpretation of free will is putting their needs first

A child who learns to use their free will to be social, want to better themselves and join in with the family is a delight
They are learning to use their free will to bring smiles to others
Their interpretation of free will is putting others needs on a level to their own or sometimes even above their own

For instance. Have you ever been confronted by an angry child at bedtime and heard them say "I don't want to go to bed, you can't make me !!"
How would you react ???
Do we fight back with the attitude of "Oh Yea? Watch me !!"
or is it possible to reason with the child
"Actually you are wrong, I could carry you up to bed and carry you up again and again, if I chose to. But I am hoping that you are clever enough to know that would make us both unhappy, us both tired and cross and not be a fun evening. So either you go to bed cross and sad or you go to bed in a nice mood and I will come and read you a story?"
ok so you can only reason with older toddlers and children
But hopefully you see what I am trying to say

Do you have a child, who does not understand the concept of sharing their toys or sweets.
If they have a friend around and they won't share, do you humour your child by telling their friend that they can't touch that.
Or do you say to your child, "If you don't want to share, thats your choice, but, you are not playing with it whilst ??? is here and if you can't share I will keep it safe."

Eventually our child will grow to realise that if they make decisions using their own Free Will that leave everyone happy too, they are the ones that benefit the most
They will be popular, respected, appreciated and held in high regard