Treat Me as I Treat You

Hey Helen

Mine is similar... Except I treat people how I would like to be treated.  I find that I can't bring myself to be as rude as some people, and I think that a lot of people aren't even aware of their behaviour - especially when they lose their temper.  I will try to encourage people to modify their behaviour if I think they are a good person behaving badly... Other than that, I am pretty happy to avoid anyone who seems hell bent on antagonising me, or anyone else on the site - the same as I do in real life.

This is a big play area, and there is plenty of space, public and private for everyone to do their own thing, as well as be part of the whole advice and Q&A section.  While we aren't here to agree with each other all the time, (for how would we learn and evolve as individuals or a species), however there is no excuse not to have respect for each other.

As usual, you have expressed yourself eloquently and gently - Lui X

Great advice Nell.  I don't think we can ever fully understand what is going on in everyone's lives here. If someone is brave enough to come on here and share the experiences and what they're going through, then I think it is wonderful to see others let them know their thoughts are with them, even if they feel like they're not able to give them any advice. I also don't get involved with mud slinging on here! I'm always clueless as to when and what its about when it happens, and I'm thankful for that. I've only ever had positive experiences here on Minti, so thank-you to everyone who has joined me with creating them! Ky *;-)

Hi nell,

I like the mantra you use with your boys, I have always tryed to  encorage respect to all in my children.

I can remember once or twice losing it when I  realised we sat down as a family and talked it through. ( we had some family problems at the time )

My mom ues to say to me " if you have nothing good to say, say nothing". It's always worked for me.

I also use the Buiddhist , " harm none"  and " do unto others as you would have done unto yourself " 

That's not to say I haven't had my shair of crap thrown at me,  and no the old nursary rhyme.  

"Sticks and stones can hurt my bones but words can never harm me"  is untue as bones mend but the mind dosen't always heal.

It always pays to think before you speak, or as in Minti's case before.....   you type.

Excellent Advice

great advice helen. i live by my nan's saying "do un to others as you would want others to do un to you"... it's a very old saying and pretty much means what you are saying.... treat others how you wish to be treated!

This type of thing has been going on ever since i joined and it raises it's ugly head every six weeks or so over something or other.  You were wondering how it looks to relatively new members well, not very good but i'm use to it now and sort of expect it!  Maybe you can't get away from these issues coming up because we are all real people with loves, hates, experiences,quirks and opinions  - a mixed bag like you say........i think you will find this in any 'community'.  There is a natural pecking order with some happy to sit back and enjoy and other always trying to out do or be on top.

I think, for the most part Minti is big enough to ignore those who make you unhappy and continuing enjoying and gaining support from your on-line friends.  In the open forum of minti i have found majority of people approachable and helpful, some people probably need to pull their head in and consider what they are typing may not be completely appropriate or could be construed as hurtful by some.   Be respectful - good advice.

Hi Helen brilliant advice as per normal but it is a shame that we live in a mudslinging culture I see it everyday on the news and on Minti.  As human being I think we all need to take a closer look at ourselves and change the way we react to things (easier said than done, I know) well at least we should try.

Good advice girlfriend, lol.

Hi Helen,

Very well said. It's so sad when you see members having a fallout and its worse when members make it public for ALL to see. Any fallouts should be left left and not be dragged into the open arena . . .  Great advice as usaual from a GREAT lady . .

Cheers Kellz

fantastic hunny xx

Excellent advice. Well said.  Respect is something every one needs to have.

Thanks for the reminder.

Dee

Well said Helen!  I try to make everyone a happy family but it didnt seem to work last night!  Why cant we all try really hard to respect each other and their point of views? I treat people how they treat me and i dont think there is anyone on minti that i dont like," No " I love everyone........ Its sad bec i left the first time bec of this reason and personal ones as well but came back bec i do love everyone and it seemed to all cooled down! Was i wrong? Hope things can all go back to the happy family that we where.

Thanks for sharing and well done .

Love you heaps Tee

Well said Nell and every one should take a leaf out of your book.  If you wont respect then you should give it.  I try and stay of all the Minti who ha, half the time I don't even know what is going on.

Very good advice, thanks - Angie

fantastic advice nell and i dont know you personally but i am always reading your blogs etc and always thinking of you and same as some other people  . and i have the same thing treat me as i would treat you .

love

bel xx

great advice nell

stace xoxox

Well written. I try to take a neutral stance in everything I do, unless it has something to do with me personally, and then in most cases it will be dealt with PRIVATELY, not in the open forum of the community. How do we teach our children patience and compassion if we ourselves do not practice it.