teaching children high esteem

for all mothers of young children out there start  teaching your children high esteem. teach them to be loved and wanted.

no matter how tired you are or how much housework there is to be done, always give hugs and kisses to your little ones. they in turn will hug and kiss you. do this  spontantanoeus as well as planned. There are times that children need and want reassurance

apart from telling your children how much you love them you need to make them feel wanted. you have to be careful not to use negative words like 'lazy' stupid' idiot' just a few examples. apart from labeling children it brings their self esteem down . while some think there is no harm saying these words they can have a long term effect on children. you will be surprised when children grow up the memories they will have. there will be things they tell you positive as well as negative that you had forgotten about or saw it differently.

That is why they say a mothers job is very hard . A mother is a teacher a nurse a carer  an adviser  a peacemaker a protector a taxi driver a child minder a psychologist  an organizer a friend and many many more...

a mother takes it all on board regardless of how tired she is  a mother is the backbone of the family the core of the apple. that is why its important for a mother to be'a mother' for a child to have high self esteem just like a good woman is behind the success of a man in business.

Little things will build up a childs self esteem. if the child can read surprise them with little notes. leave them in their room on their dressing table for example. so when they come home from school they see it. this on top of the kiss and hugs you have already given them will make them feel special. remember children also have "a bad day" just like us adults. they might have had an arguement with their friend or found the class work hard.  the teacher might herself been snappy that day so many different factors. a little hug goes a long way.

do this and much more make sure though that you are still teaching children right from wrong. dont spoil children but having said that dont neglect them. sometimes children have "everything" materialistic but lack the love of being loved. if your family never showed these emotions and you feel uncomfortable with all this, remember one thing , a child toddler  or baby is so innocent theywill not judge you. in fact they "look up to you' they need your assurance.

sometimes when the children are older and mothers havent been able to show love over the years think their 'children dislike them

of course there are a lot of factors that can play a role  but when a child lacks self esteem everything will be at fault and blame will be on"everything" the child will feel like a victim. 

break out of the circle it can be done. i know it sounds unfair but mothers have the 'upperhand' it is 'mother nature' sometimes we have to make sacrifices for our children. there have been lots and lots of mothers out there that have been "without things" just to provide for their children 

lots of mothers who  go it alone. i say well done!!!

children will have lots of compassion in their hearts if they are shown compassion. mothers can do that

occasionally buy "a gift " even if its a dollar for your child. for no particular reason. in fact buy two gifts. tell your child to give the other gift to either a friend or to charity or something. teach your child to share. all this has a positive affect and all this builds up your childs self confidence. your child will "feel good giving" when the child is young though start where the gifts are the same. that way you are teaching your child to 'let go of the the gift' as they get older they will then give without wanting

give children chores to do nothing to difficult for their age but try to make it into fun. they will benefit as you are teaching them things and that can only build up their self esteem. they will not be intimidated by the situation when they are older. i have taught my children for example to keep their dockets for items they have purchased when the product  hasnt lived up to the expectation my son contacted the retailer who in turn got him to contact the manufacturer. the product proved to be faulty (he was able to do this because of proof of purcahse and when purchased) and even though he had worn his soccer boots they in turn agreed that the boot inside should not have appeared on the surface and sent by courier paid by them a replacement pair and upgraded the boots to dearer ones (his origional pair were not cheap either)

my point here is that i didnt do anything here he did it all. But over time i taught him the importance of keeping receipts in abox for a certain time

no matter what the process or what is taught positive things always in the long run are better for children. if we are negative children also think negative. there area lot of obstacles thrown at all of us in life but it is the way that we handle it all that makes a difference. never ever give up. once we think defeat all our 'world comes crumbling down" i hope this helps at least one person

cheers annie