I have been battling a family of "Why are you doing this?, That's to much for her to take., Do you have to give her that?" And many more questions. They try to tell me that I should not be giving my girl all this medicine, or that 
she is changing because of it, or that she is becoming so dependant on it for what ever the reason. My response to it all is, you don't know, your not her mom, leave me alone! I get so upset at times because I feel like I have to defend myself and why I'm doing what I'm doing with my baby. Truth of the matter is she has allergies, there is nothing I can give her other then benaryl to stop the breakouts. I can't just let her do what ever as she can get sick, and I'm constantly worrying about who is going to touch her, what has she eaten, and I get the sense they think I'm over reacting. They tell me poor baby, why can't she have this, or poor thing, does she have to take to so much medicine? Or I read somewhere that to much will give them nerve damage or the such. I say thanks for your advice, but it's my girl, I'm not doing it just because, I've had many visits to the doctors, many trips to the er, and they all tell me the same thing, and I'm trying my best.
See my in-laws do their best to tell me what I should be doing, or they questions why I'm doing it. Reason is they just don't understand. And it's really hard because they don't undertand, they don't have to live with it, and they think that I'm OCDing it all. I have told them about the doctors visits, what the doc says, what I have researched and I still get the same thing. It's very tough, so how do you deal with it? You take it with a grain of salt.
Most family members mean well, they are just going on their own knowledge and experinces. And that is a great thing, that is why we all look to each other as parents for help when we just don't know what to do. Meanwhile, some people go a little over the top and insist that their way is the right way or they just know. With those, you just have to say thank you for your words and that you will see how things go. You just have to take it with a grain of salt.
We all know what it's like to go thru something and for the family to seem to question everything you do. It's not their fault, they just don't understand it, and thus can't reason with what you are doing. See the problem can often be is they are giving advice for something that is not even close to what they have experinced. They may see a rash on their kids, say from rolling the grass, the same as my baby getting welts from eating something one in the same. They will then say, this is what we did and you should try it and watch it will work. They go on to say, you don't have to do all that with your girl, it's to much, she is so little. But I know it's not the same, and I have to take what they say with a grain of salt
Advice is not written in stone, it's not black and white like it is day and night, it's objective. It based on one's own experinces, knowledge and outcome of a situation. And thus when passing it on to someone else, that person should take it with a grain of salt. Meaning, all advise is good, it will work in certain situations, of course not all, but you can't expect it to work all the time. And you can't take someone's advise to heart, and if it does not work, feel like you failed cause of it. Taking it with a grain of salt simply means that you will try it in a way that suites you and your situation, but you wont look at it as something that must be set in stone. Kinda if it works great, if it doesnot it's ok, there will be something else that will work.
My advise about advise? Take it with a grain of salt, and don't feel bad it you try it and it does not work. There is something out there that will work for you!
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