Elaine

Re: mum at a loss
Asked by Debz

Question:
 

my son is so rude ,hes almost 16, i try talking with him and he gets angry and walks away,if he doesnt like what i have to say, which is nearly all the

time lately,if you ask me the teen years suck big time!!we have become like strangers living together,i try and stay on top of things but its so hard,I want to know why they think they have the right to treat parents with such contempt,we as parents feed ,clothe,worry about them and only want the best for them and we get treated like shit by them.Also i joined the single parent group and under my name it says leave group i dont understand why ,can someone tell me please.

My Advice:

I also have a son turning 16 on Friday & Debz they turn into aliens !!

Now...... just go back a few years & try to remember what you were doing at 15-18 Years old.

How did you feel about your parent/s careres? were you convinced they were old fashioned? Didnt have a clue what they were talking about?

well ,we no doubt had attitude also.I

find the best way to get my son to open up is late at night when we are on our own & dont look at him.

Just pretend to be watching TV or reading & speak with him NOT to him ,ask him things that need more than ,nup ,yep,Ok becasue that way they have to speak .

I could sometimes tear my hair out at frustration ,but I have 2 other older kids & yes they were the same ,but have turned out OK ,even though I thought I might get charged with murder on the odd occassion.

Hang in there & remember TOUGH LOVE,you are his mum,NOT his friend,but someone that he can lean on as he has mates & only one mother.

Tell him when there is no friction that you love him .....always

good luck -Elaine