NEVER take for granted...............

Hi Kylie

Your words are so true..Im sorry u r losing your mum. I imagine losing my mum and just the thought of it is unbearable. i know one day it will happen and I wonder how I will get thru it. I have not spoken to my brother for nearly 2 yrs. He has his knickers in a bloody great knot and refuses to untie them..lol I have tried to get things back on track to no avail. I am finding I am at the point where it doesnt even matter anymore, I barely think about him. That is very sad I know and hopefully one day he will get over it.

Joxx

Hi Kylie, My thoughts are with you. Stay strong, I'm not sure what your beliefs are, I hpoe you can think that all things are conected in the universe.

Due to a family break up I lost contact with my (bio) Dad, Granddad&Gran. I wish I'd had more strenth to see them as thay are no longer here , and I have deeply regretted not taking my two children to let them watch them growing up.  There is so much I wanted to say and can't now.

Ithink to my self that they can understand and see so  I don't have to feel guilty any more.

I will also add to your last comment, please please settle any missgivings, even if only .  through letters. Once a year             

I have miss my Grandad so much that I stoped celebrating my b'day, He was always the first to arrive and last to leave.

Lisa

Hi Kylie,

I am so very sorry for all the pain that you are in and you know mate that I am here for you . . . NO as for this article IT IS parenting advice, reminding people to appreciate what they have got with regards to family is advice . . For some the bond between them and their parents is a remarkable one that helps with their parenting skills . .

If you need me matey just ask . . . .  Thanks for the GREAT reminder . .

HUGS Kellz

I am sorry to read of your pain, and the difficulty you are living through with your Mother. I've learned several things in my almost 55 years. first, no one can replace your mother as your" birth mother".  I can still hear my mother in my head, and feel her in my heart.

I also know for some people, friends...really good friends can replace and renew the spirit of someone who's birth family was toxic.  I lost the last of my family in November of 2006, my dear brother, followed by my dear aunt in May of 2007.  I've spent many years healing from my "family" and found a new independance within myself with their passing, although I miss them dearly, and morn their passing, death brings forth new life, an ever changing cycle...and growth emotionally.

What you write is true, what is left unsaid can be very painful when no words can be spoken for healing. Forgiveness is for the person doing the forgiving, not for the person who has done the harm, as more times than not, they haven't a clue as to your feelings. One can reach out, if one is ready for the reply or ready for the lack of a reply.

Take care, Simba1

just wanted to add this link as it relates to the point you've made:

www.minti.com/members/mummy2girls/blog/632500

our thoughts are with you and your family.

you have made a very important point...  always appreciate each other!

thanx lol lisa xxxx.

great point life is short . regrets can weigh on the person that is left behind. it can ruin lives and the end result?

noone is happy 

Sorry to hear what you're going through Kylie

although it is good advice.....I kinda like the distances I keep from mine.

i know what your saying here,, and must be hard for you but i broke away from my family years ago,, and i like it like that but i have my reasons for it,, but i understand what your saying xxxshar