Today would have been my dear brothers 58'th birthday. He died November of 2006 of cancer.  I have done a lot of soul searching these past months, coming to terms with my own mortality, as I'm 54, and my dear sister passed away at 35 also from cancer, as did my mother.  I continue to struggle with my emotions, and feel very sad that I will no longer use Minti as a place to vent my feelings, to help myself and others through my life experiences and how I've managed to pull myself up from the gutter. Last night so pained by an argument with my son where I clearly lost my perspective with him, I cut 8" off my hair, and came on to Minti to find some help and solace.  I find havoc, anger, flaming etc and had no sleep the night, despite taking a sleeping pill to help me....my nerves were rattled to t he bone.

For the many woman, who have silent strong voices, that reach out neglecting themselves to forward through an e-mail to my blog, or an e-mail to me directly I thank you all! My dear friends, I have learned much from you, and  I will miss you all sincerely. Know that you have touched my heart and will remain there, you will remain in my prayers for  your health and well being, as will all Minti Moms...even the ones who are grumpy and cause problems....because turmoil promts action.   There is one word that describes what is happening, CHANGE.  Life is full of change, we have a hard time accepting change because if tumbles our apple cart, makes us feel uncomfortable and stretches our lives and emotions....Women rule the world, men blast their way through, and children create a future.  The full circle is broken at times, and that is where I'll be going to find another brass ring to grab for whatever I'm supposed to learn.

In the wonderful words of Bob Marley, "Don't worry, Be Happy"

Take care, Simba1

Merry Christmas..Ho Ho Ho

For Newbie's and Oldies

For those in-between thinking of leaving because of another's rude or thoughtless comments.

Minti is a funny place:

If you look at what I've written, you will find I wrote clearly please Minti me if you have questions or concerns in anything I've written, why, because I screwed up. The numbers, comments and votes don't make a hoot to me, nor do the nasty, bitchy, argumentative people who have nothing better to do with their time than to gossip and spend their day here on Minti thinking they are better mothers, better workers, better everything...ya they are better at nothing, just bully's who need to build themselves up on another's painful experiences with their "OPINIONS" and "THEIR RIGHT TO THEIR OPINIONS'. 

THINK:  How would you feel to be on the receiving end of YOUR OPINION before you post??? Have some empathy for all who are just trying to make it through the day, NOT PERFECTLY...Sorry, only God is Perfect!

Think Think Think and then Think again before blasting off and clicking that little button...clicking those little stars....making a snide remark in your blog for the world to read....really get a GRIP on reality as it is NOT at the end of your nose it is posted on MINTI for the world to read! 

UGH, I'm Disgusted with the nastiest, especially at this time of year when emotions run high...many painful memories come up from the past!  JUST MY HONEST OPINION.  (2/23 I've concluded it is the Full Moon Syndrome)

NEW MEMBERS:

Get past the need to 'be friends' with every one, take what you like and leave the rest, you will be much happier. If you can get past 'expectations' you will be much happier. If you write on Minti for You, and with an open heart to help others, You will be much happier. The stars are fun, the numbers are fun, the badges are fun...just remember there are real people, with real feelings behind those other numbers, stars and badges.

In-between's thinking of leaving:

Personally, I've been where you are, and very upset by some things that happened early in my membership. Not to mention what continues to happen with cackling hens who are just mean, or those who's skin is so sheer they need to get a life and stop whinnying. It was hard for me in the beginning, I was humbled,  I fessed up to my mistake.  I was sorry, and said so. Then let go,  I'd done what I could from my heart through my hand to make peace. If you feel wronged, think about the millions of cyber groups, people etc. There are not many like Minti, even with it's foibles, so take a "Minti break" and come back in a month, when there is less holiday stress slamming you left and right. Some one wants to be voted off...I'm voting you off because you have a right to remove your profile and yourself from Minti. If I "oh please stay" all this does is to ensite more animosity, attention etc. rather than to find out what help can be made to correct the pain, mistake or whatever with maturity, THROUGH MINTI MAIL.

Let go of expectations!!!.

Get Real!!! Be Honest!!!  YOU will not like everyone here. Not  Everyone here might like you!  Does it matter in the Grand Scheme of Life NO...what matters only is what is in your heart, and how you behave towards others...

A Rule for Life: by John Wesley

Do all the good you can,  By all the means you can,  In all the ways you can,  In all the places you can,  At all the times you can,  To all the people you can,  As Long as ever you can. 

Reach for Your Star to help others to reach their star along the roller coaster of life and be with them in the deep loops when 'they ask for  your help' advice given when not asked for can be viewed as an insult to another's ability to make their own choices and live their own life.