I am about 26 weeks pregnant.

& only sixteen.

I didn't tell my family up until 2 weeks ago.

It hurt so bad that i couldnt talk to them about it.

What hurt me the most is that i have never had much of a family.

My dad died a few years ago and mum had been re married twice,

so i ended up living with my grandmother.

I knew the needed to know, but i knew they wouldnt accept it, as i couldnt do it myself.

But when i told them, mum was angry, as she knows how hard it is, havin my at only 19.

My nan was very calm.

The best thing i did was tell them, i feel so much better.

My family were angry & hurt, and it took them a while to understand.

But now they all seem pretty excited. :)

Only 99 days to go till my little girl is born now. :)

when i got pregnant as a teen all i wanted was for my mum to understand me. not to shout at me, just comfort me and tell  me every thing was alright. im sure thats what your daughter wants to. sit her down and talk her through all the possabilitys. and whatever she decides to do stick by her and help her get through it.

Lucie xx

Go get some professional help so she knows what she has to look forward to. The good and the bad. Try to teach her to be at least prepared for the expect and maybe for some of the unexpected. But most of all hold her ever day so she knows you still love her no matter what.

Great advice you are so right, when I got pregnant at 19 my mum was the every step of the way. Aaron was the first grandchild for my parents and I just had the 14th so much love to go around. I started to see mum in a whole new light ( not not a good teen to say the least) it showed me what I had put mum through in the past years and to this day 11 years later im still sorry. I my Mummy

Great Advice I would accept my daughter if she wanted to have a baby. Doesnt matter what age they are you cant stop caring and being there for them. But thats my choise.

Joeanne 

As a teen mother myself, being 15, telling my mother was the hardest thing i had to do and once she passed the initial shock, we talked about her being disappointed in me and that this child would change my life, but that it was my decision and whatever i chose she would always be right beside me.

It brung my mum and me closer than ever before and now i'm proud to say she is my bestfriend. There's nothing i won't tell her and i know she'll always be there when i need her.

Mum was so great during my pregnancy, coming to the doc's appointments and ultrasounds aswell as helping me prepare for baby with nursery furniture and clothing, etc. As at the time i didn't have alot of support from my boyfriend and none at all from his family.

My mum was my major support during my labour and very proudly cut her grand daughter's cord tears running down her face, as she told me she's never been so proud of me and that i had done a fantastic job.

That was 8 yrs ago, i am still with the same partner and we now have 3 beautiful girls and my mum has been present at their births and i'm currently pregnant with our 4th and only hope that she will be there during this one. Mum has special bonds with my children and they absolutely adore her, there's nothing she wouldn't do for them.

It's funny and she makes me laugh everytime she say's that she laboured my births, i remember her saying if i could take away the pain i would.

I love my mum she's my inspiration to be the best mother that i can be!!

Thank you for this insight.  I have always enjoyed a good relationship with my mother and look forward to continuing a great relationship with my daughter.  But having a game plan for the unthinkable is certainly a good way of not suffering the consequences of a knee-jerk reaction!

Peace
EF.x

I totally agree.

I should add that while the majority of my family was supporting me with my pregnancy, there was one person who didn't... my step mum.  We have always had a great relationship, until I found out i was pregnant.  Not long after i found out, my boyfriend and I moved to where her and my dad live.  My dad was great, helping us when we needed it and just being there for us.  She on the other hand wanted nothing to do with me.  She didnt speak to me.  I'd say hello to her in the morning and all i'd get in reply was a grunt or silence.  When i had my ultrasound and found out i was having a girl, my dad and the rest of my family were over the moon- even the neighbours were happy and wanted to know how everything was.  We told her and she just went 'oh, thats nice'.  She never once asked how I was feeling, never once asked how the baby was.  And one night I found out a friend was pregnant as well... i told her and she screamed at me 'I dont approve of an 18 year old having a baby, let alone a 16 year old!!''  It made me feel terrible, like i had done something bad.  Even tho I had so many people supporting, having this one person who I looked up to so much so openly put me and my choices down made me feel the size of ant.  It was horrible.  I cried for days because of it.  So please even if you are a step parent, it doesnt matter... be there and support ur kids choices....

I was a teen mum and my mum was a teen mum.... my family always knew that I would have a baby in my teens.  But that still didnt help the shock when I told them I was expecting my first baby (or my second for that matter).  The advise I would give to any parent who's teen comes to them says 'i'm pregnant' or 'my girlfriend is pregnant' is be there for them!!!  it is their lives and yes, they will make mistakes but no body is the perfect parent and if they didnt think they could handle the consequences, they wouldn't have had unprotected sex!! 

Parents, listen to your kids... they know what they want.  If you push them away or push them to do something they don't want to do (like abortion or adoption), you will lose them forever!!  Being pregnant at any age is scary... but imagine how scary it is for someone who hasn't finished school... who has all that bullying and horrible comments about them on a daily basis... imagine having everyone- even complete stranger- feel its ok to judge your every move as a parent just becuase of your age.  Teen parents need support... and they need it from the most important people they have... their parents.

This is excellent advice! I love it all.  I have noticed that in general the parents that dont accept their daughters are part of the reason they got pregnant in the first place. They looked for unconditional love with someone else. My parents surprised me with how accepting they were of my pregnancy and my fiance and that made me so happy!

Great advice Mony! I wish all parents coulod read this.

my mum said to me that if it was her she would have aborted when i was preggers with logan but she got over it, she is the best oma ever now hehehe! ::)'s mony great article.

Hi there Mony ,I am going to be a step G ma in the next month,my step daughter was 17 when she fell pregnant and is now 18 ,she lives 4 hrs away from us  with her bf , we have been there for support emotionally ,just wish there was more we can do for her ,as we feel she really has no idea how her life is going to change.Wish she would just move in with us for a while as her bf is not a great support either.Thank-you sharing this advice with us.

                                                                       Cham

it is so important that you shared how you and your mom became closer.  That's what teenagers need to hear.  And to have that hope. 

Hi honey,

This is GREAT . . Sadly I see many teenage girls that have been abandoned by their parents because they are pregnant. . . These young girls are terrified and really need that extra bit of TLC . . . . I know if my teen was to tell me, I'd be shocked yes BUT I'd never reject her for it . . . To be honest I don't understand any parent who could reject their child . . .

Cheers Kellz

I'm with you on this advice....i think learning your pregnant for the first time at any age is daunting but with the love & support from your mum....makes that journey so much less frightening.

Cheers Janice

i totally understand how you feel, i got pregnant at 18 and i thought that when my family found out about alisha, they would go crazy.. but they didn't...

my brother (who is two years older than me) welcomed me with open arms, along with his girlfriend as well.. and as a result, they are two of my closest friends today... they constantly buy alisha things, drop by just for a visit, buy us groceries randomly... they've just been great...

i guess my point is, without all that support, i don't know what i would've done... because like you said, my fiance and i would not have created alisha unless we loved eachother... so the fact that i was 18 and not yet married wasn't an issue to me... you'd be surprised because me and lawrence wanted kids after 1 month of dating !

i love alisha so much and i don't think i could ever imagine yelling at her for getting pregnant or calling her stupid or anything like that.. because at the end of the day, she's my daughter and although we all make mistakes, it doesn't mean that her accidental pregnancy isn't a blessing in disguise... maybe it'll teach her the value of life and family, just as it did me :)

thank you for the article, i enjoyed reading your work !! xox

my in laws took me under their wing when we found out we were having Alex, but my mum wanted and pushed for an abortion. i have always had a bad realationship with my mum. And i am so glad i didnt let her win cause i have a wonderful hubby and a beautiful boy who is a pain in the bum at times but i cant imagne my life without him.

great advice M

Thank you for sharing your own experience of being a teen mum and the advice you give parents of a to be teen mum is great and so insightful especially the inclusion of the babys father, your children are extremely lucky to have a mum that can view situations from both prospectives, please keep writing advice like this.

yayyyyyyyyy we out of the sin Bin lol.. and great advice for the parents with teens..

xxxx cazza

Totally agree with you Mony

xxx