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This is the small things
The things that hurt but cause no lasting damage
It may even feel like a big deal at the time
But these Hurts are the Hurts we can get over
Even if it takes a while
When I think of the times my children have hurt me over the years, three little words instantly spring to mind
I HATE YOU !!!!
I have lost count of the times that those three words have been thrown at me during one of the children having a tantrum.
Does it hurt less because I know they don’t really mean it????
Sadly NO, those words have the ability of stinging each and every time they are uttered.
if you have had them thrown at you from one of your own you will know exactly what I mean.
Does it help when they are calm again and hug you and say they are sorry ????
Sadly NO, but it is good that they recognise they owe you an apology
Does it make a difference when you realise they are really saying they hate the situation ????
Sadly NO, but I’ll try and remember that next time 
Another time it hurts is if we see our children struggle, it can be in all sorts of ways, either making friends, settling at school. learning. mixing with others.....the list goes on but basically we all know that if our child is having problems with anything, than it is us parents who are hurting right along with them.
Even a minor cut on their finger has the ability of making us cringe and hurt too, as parents all we want to do is protect them so if any harm no matter how small comes to them, yes it hurts.
We nurse them when they are not feeling 100%, we coax them into being able to get up and run around, it hurts us to see our children feeling poorly, we will spend time pampering them, making them comfortable, bringing them drinks etc anything to get a smile back on their face.
Sometimes it does hurt being a parent but this is also the times when we can step up and teach them in the way we react, how they should learn to react too. Remember a child always learns more from copying than they do from listening. So if we over react when they are hurting, then we are teaching them to do the same
Sadly there are also times when it goes beyond simply hurting and that level of pain is not the kind of hurt I am talking about here
The Hurt in this topic is when we hurt but we can also make it go away again for us and for our child, with no lasting damage or after effects.
(March 2008) (
