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Some of us have our own story to tell when it comes to Grief
Grief are usually emotions beyond our control
Grief is also living with a situation we cannot change
Again there are many ways in which we live through grief
Sadly too many of us parents have to find ways of coping with grief
There are so many levels of Grief
Immediately when we think of Grief we think of Loss.
I was once in a situation where I helped a friend through the aftermath of losing her child when the child, a boy, had only lived for 22 hours, the grief she went through was horrific.
Years later that same friend gave birth to another son who when he was a week old had to have open heart surgery and it was touch and go for a long time, I watched her again deal with not only the grief of seeing her son have major surgery and the grief of the aftermath as he healed but also the grief of the memories and fears that it conjured up for her. She went through a terrible terrible time.
I have also read on here so many desperately sad stories of parents that are having to nurse their child through serious injuries or infections or disabilities, situations that they have no knowing what the outcome will be or not knowing how much longer they can cope.
Some of us grieve over less devastating situations, but if it causes deep hurt and is out of our control, this still can grieve us as much but in different ways.
My current grief is the rejection of my oldest son who has chosen to cut me out of his life after I separated from his dad, he can’t believe his dad is as bad a person as I have said and has never come to talk it through with me, instead he chose to walk away, my other grief is my youngest and the emotional roller coaster he is currently travelling on.
Although both these situations are not as devastating as life threatening or worse, to me because I can’t change anything I am reliant on others, for example of softening of my sons heart, living with this day in day out causes me a lot of grief.
We all have different ways of coping with our grief, but the one essential survival instinct we should all have is to not cut ourselves off from those we love.
Sharing is most definitely an essential tool to coping and moving on
(March 2008) (
