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Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

emmie by emmie Talking Back(March 2008) (rank 26th)

Well the start of my troubles was when I was 13 years old and still is one of the biggest things to happen to me and is something I have not told Barry. Anyhow, lets stop beating round the bush so here it is...

I had this best friend,

or shall I say so-called best friend Tanya one night Sunday October 18th. We went down by the legion and met up with some friends of her brothers and ours. Just being kids we seen this little blue like office thing and decided to sit on it. Well I had to be home by 8pm and Tanya for 9pm, so me and tanya said right were off and headed for my house. We were walking across the field by the flats and the 3 boys; Ashley, Kyle and Kieran seemed as though they were actually chasing me.

I dont know what happened then, but Tanya disappeared and so did Kieran. Kyle was the biggest of the lot and pinned me down while Ashley stripped me of my clothes. At the time, poppers were the in thing, so i guess that made it easier. I was kicking, screaming, trying to hit and calling Tanya. Well Ashley had sex with me and then he disappeared. Kieran come back and did the same, I was screaming, 'someone help me please.' He grabbed my clothes, shoes, everythng apart from a t-shirt which was also ripped and with kyle still having hold of me decided he would have a go too. But on his own was not strong enough to hold me, and rape me. I managed to escape, I found Tanya on the other side of the flats. She put me on her back and took me home, the key was in the door which meant my sister was out.

I went straight to my room and shut the door behind me, Kellie and Alicia were over the road. They came home and Kellie heard me sobbing and guess what - she found my clothes. She demanded that I opened the door and I let her in and blocked off the door. Alicia woke my Mum and Bob went out with half a snooker cue. Nobody was about and he returned home, I told Kellie everything and she said I had to tell the police. I went downstairs to confront everybody and called the police - well mum did.

They arrived and they took my clothes. At the police station, photos were taken of my arms as they were bruised from when I was struggling. Tanya also made a statement and she agreed that I had been raped... Well until she had a video interview and then she said the same as them; it was only a game. Yeah, some great game and even a school friend of mine Jemma that lived in the flats said that night as Kyle was raping me they were returning home and even though they see as my witness and offenders have the same story all they got was a caution.

I could not accept that as punnishment for what they did to me, so the next day I never went to school. I arranged with Bob I was going to stay home and in the morning we went to the school well close to it oh walking to school in happy moods there they are laugghing cos they got away with it. So we approached them, 'Kyle,' I said, ' you think you have got away with it do you?' Before they could give an answer, Bob had Kyles arms behind his back holding him there. I said revenge is sweet. Now you feel the pain and I was punching and kicking him. I could not look at him anymore, I felt sick and told him to stay away or I'll do it again and walked away. He and some school friends said Bob hit him in the mouth once. That day the police came, Istill had blood on me 'cos his nose was bleeding, but still Bob was arrested for assault and charged with ABH. and over and grand in the courts so much for sweet revenge well there it is its out and I've said it .

Although this is my worst nightmare i now think of my bright future abusee free instead of the dusty past i hope others can do the same .

Luv Emz xxx

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smsjs
Wednesday | smsjs
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

First of all, Thank you for sharing this awful event with us. Getting it off your chest can often help people cope with the trauma things like this create.

I am not one that supports revenge, but in these situations, when the police are not wanting to do anything about such a horrible assault, there is merit for such actions. Personally I would have taken that half a pool cue and assaulted Kyles Behind with it and asked him....so do you like it?

Did the police think to have a doctor examine you? If not, they are totally incompetent.

And the police let these offenders off, because they said it was only a game?? What kind of game is Rape??

Just ripping ones clothes from ones back constitutes a criminal offense let alone actually raping someone. The police should be bloody ashamed of themselves for allowing these boys to get off without as much as a charge.....and they wonder why boys don't respect women.

I have a feeling with this case Emmie that this supposed girlfriend of yours was conspiring with the boys to carry out this attack.

I have shown your story to my daughters an hope that they can learn from this horrible thing that happened to you. If you ever need a person to talk to, please don't be afraid to minti mail me. My lady and I will always be here to chat if you need it!

 



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tiffandcraig
October 23rd | tiffandcraig
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Wow. Your story was heartfelt hun. I can't believe people do these things.. It's disgusting!!! It's great that you can share your story so then people out there who have been through the same thing know they are not along xx.



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      emmie
September 19th | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

you are sick and twisted you know that you need serious help if this is how you have to go to get your kicks well what more is there to  say grow up and get a life



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           iloveyou
September 22nd | iloveyou
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xoxoxooxxooxx



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iloveyou
September 10th | iloveyou
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omg. this article is so sad. tears came to my eyes. i dont even know you. im so sorry that some men are sick. you are such a beautiful girl. and very strong for sharing your story. stay sweet, live strong, grow happy. your beautiful. LAM



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      emmie
September 10th | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

thats real sweet thanks the sadest thing is they were just boys at the time an they will have this on their consiences all their silly lifes .



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Frontier
January 2009 | Frontier
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

 The system did not protect you. It let you down.

You have shown you are a bigger and stronger person than those scum and the weak authorities who did not look out for you.

Keep being you as you are a great person.  



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      emmie
September 10th | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

yes it let me down bi  time thats what you get for staying thwe e right side of the law sucks but i am now attending a group to help me shove this to one side . I do stil l struggle to understand how and why they did this to me but fingers crosse all that can stop soon :) Thankd for your lovely comment xx



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hayleyg
December 2008 | hayleyg
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

You're so brave and so inspirational. I hope you manage to help others. Its so difficult to speak out and when one person is as couragous as you have been others will follow.

x



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      emmie
December 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Thanks xx



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janicepovey
November 2008 | janicepovey
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)
In telling your tragic story, hopefully you will help others in opening up so they to can start to heal. Mum xxx


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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

I sure hope so mum thanks xxx



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ksweatman
November 2008 | ksweatman
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

OMG! It's unbelievable what people will do to one another.  I'm glad you seem to have healed.  You are very brave to tell your story and others hopefully will benefit from your strength! Much Love!

Kerri



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Some people in this world are jst sick sweetie and women are left to pick up the pieces problem is not everyone has the stregnth to . Hugs cheers xxx



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kittykins
November 2008 | kittykins
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

URa suvivor babs most would have let it swallo em up but u keep on fightin

its the way forward good on ya u give hope to loads of others out there

xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx's n massive kittyhuggies



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

You have to keep fighting if you dont your letting them win and i couldent let that happen i am better and stronger than the will ever be. Hugs to you xxxx



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PrincessCourtney
November 2008 | PrincessCourtney
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

That is so sad i cant believe they got off so lightly.

Bab should have been cautioned and they should have been locked up!!

Rapist are The scum of the earth along with pedophiles.

Good on you for moving on with your life you are truly inspirational

xx court



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Yep its sickening if you ask me . They ot off do lightly as theywere under 16 and my friend who was a witness said it was a hsme. Totally sickening and wrong

All rapists should be locked uo xx



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griz
November 2008 | griz
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

You are so brave and strong. Unfortunatley many get away with it like that.

Let's do the best we can for our daughters to protect them from this happening to them.



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Thanks as horrible s it is you are right thousandsget away with it on a daily basis these ays.

I will never let this happwn to my daughters xxxx



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tigger6161
October 2008 | tigger6161
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

You are a brave Woman, hopefully one day i can feel as open and brave as you to share my storie...



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

I hope so for sure it really helps to let it outhugs to you xx



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bock
October 2008 | bock
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

its bullshit excuse me i am sick of people like that get off with a so call warning and for people that are trying to protect u are always the ones getting punished you are very brave for sharing your story its people like you who has stood up and shouted hey look other people might o the same this is a big part of our lives at the moment and it should be stoped  hope you are doing well know am i am truely sorry  with your possitive attitude you shall have a wonderful future ahead take care beck



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Your right its bullshit they screwed up my school years i hit out at on of them it cost my mum hundreds in court too just suckening they should be locked up and the key thrown away but over the years i have learnt they cant defeat me im stronger xxxx



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Trik
October 2008 | Trik
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hey Emmie,

Thank you for sharing your story, it is such a terrible thing that they did to you. I think you are so brave for sharing your story, standing up for yourself and for living a positive life! I really admire you!

Trik xxx



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

thanks its not nice for sure i needed to stand up to them it broke me that hey got away with it xxx



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spinnychic
October 2008 | spinnychic
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Thanks Emmie for sharing...

You are so coragious for so many reasons but most of all for being able to keep looking for the light....

Bright is best and colours are wonderful and You have helped me remeber that (having a shit w/end...)

Thankyou and looking forward to getting to know you better...

Cheers

Spinnychic



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      emmie
November 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

I have to sweeti i cant let them win i wont let them defeat me

yep bright bright bright it can be hard to remember on crap ays though

keep smiling xxxx



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Lalalulu
September 2008 | Lalalulu
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

you poor thing i have been through it too noone should have to go through that



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      emmie
September 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

yo are so right nobody deserves to be abused i hope you are moving on with your life now xx



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PeteGraham
September 2008 | PeteGraham
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hi hon,

Just read your story and I'm so sorry for you.  Makes me so angry that people like that are allowed to get away with stuff like this.  You are so strong to be able to cope with it all and I respect you completely for it.

Take care always.

Pxx



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      emmie
September 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Unfortunatly they do and it just so happened their ages helped them as they wer eunder 16 which helped them with it was a game jus sickening because they are underage they wa;lk way with a caution . xx



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angeleyes1973
September 2008 | angeleyes1973
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

hi ya em, just read ur story, had no idea, speak to u about my experience one day, take care babe, c u soon. x x x



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      emmie
September 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hey Hun ,

Bless you ssshhh dont tell Barry he would have a fit and bloody kill them , you know you can speak to me any day

Luv Emz xxxx



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anon
June 2008 | anon
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hey Emz,

What a terrible ordeal. and something that is still not well enough spoken about in the general public. etc. HOTMAMA has a good point, the victim has nothing to be ashamed of but the person or people who were responsible for inflicting thier cruel behaviours do. Thankyou for Sharing your story and I know I don't need to tell you what a wonderful and truely fantastic person you are but I wanted too anyway.

Karen. xx.



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HOTMAMA
June 2008 | HOTMAMA
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

I think you did the right thing, for what its worth, both things, goin to the police and taking matters into your own hands.  As for your "friend" saying it was a game, I would like to show her a game I play with my fist and her mouth!  Thanks for sharing your story, I think this happens more than people think, and so many sweep it under the rug, and it is nothing for the victim to be ashamed of......



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MrsSanders
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | MrsSanders
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Oh Emmie, what a terrible ordeal to have suffered. I see though that you are not one to let the horror of this bring you down. What a great view you have taken, to look forward and not back. I hope others will read this and realise that it is possible to move forward, and take a new path. Well done you for sharing, stay strong and happy.

Luv,Winnie.xxxx

 



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      emmie
March 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hey Hun,

Well the way i see it is why  look  back back is dark forward is much better its really bright i like the bright its colourful and colourful makes me happy does that actually make sense lol .

Luv Emz xxx



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llmunchkin
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | llmunchkin
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Well my lovely little friend, you know that I am very proud of the way you cope with your little family, especially when you consider the many horrible experiences you have had.  Your article show that you don't need to be a victim of your circumstances, and that you can create your own wonderful family and be HAPPY!  xox



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      emmie
March 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hello YOU ,

Yes of course u can be happy  i just look in my girls eyes they are both very bright like our future i try my best not to look back the way i see it is bright is forward dark is back i think the bright soiunds much better . I havemy girls now sod therest of them .

Luv ME XXX



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fairymama25
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | fairymama25
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

That is a terrible thing to happen to you, well done for sharing your story. You are a very strong person Emz, Luv Em x



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      emmie
March 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Hi Em,

Not strong  i just feel my kidsare more important now ii have to think forward and nott back if not for my own sake theirs

Cheers

Luv Emz xx



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cazza
5.00 (Excellent) | March 2008 | cazza
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

This would have being so hard to write and some may think its not advice, but for me i feel that for u to share your story would help others to know how you are feeling and that you dont need to be the victim no more..

so Thank you for edited and update on this very touchy subject..

xxx cazza



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      emmie
March 2008 | emmie
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

No the way isee it is you dont have to always be a victim you can work yourself to a bright future

Cheers

Emz



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           cazza
March 2008 | cazza
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

Exactly and i hope that with others reading your article that they can work through it all as well..

xxx cazza



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                emilyrogers
August 31st | emilyrogers
Re: Gang Rape - My Story (edited & updated)

 hearing your story made me open up about my story. Your so brave to talk about what happened. I was raped last year and have not told anyone, but you gave me inspiration to talk to my best friend about it and it made me feel so much better. Thank you =) x



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