Adult Children

We just don't know where our life is going to take us, but your daughter is very lucky to have her dad behind her in her trip. Enjoyed reading this advice.

i must admit i didn't have the foggiest about being responsible till i was a parent myself. it is good to hear that your daughter has figured it out before then ::) from becca!

Well things are looking up. Last night Rochelle rang me and among other things said that she has deleted most of the people from her contacts in her phone.

She said that the best she could explain what was happening to her was that "her body was in her head". I am not 100% sure what she means but it don't sound to flash.

She says that she is sick of being secretive and wants her family to share evry aspect of her life...You don't know how much of a relief it was to hear those words.

The childhood sexually abuse she has endured and her friends telling her that she is fat, (159cm and 70kg is a bit over weight but it is far from being fat) will not have been helping her self esteem any but I am proud that she was strong enough to get it back together.

Thank you Minti for listening and offering valuable advice to help me through.

I love my daughter forever.

Now it's the son I need to sort out...wish me luck

Robert

From a very young age we start to teach our kid's rules but life lessons are something they have to learn on their own.

It sounds to me you are doing a great job..........and it's clear your daughter knows she can come home anytime and she knows she has your support and unconditional love.

Amanda xxx

Robert

I can relate to this time you are going through.  Hang in there and keep supporting your daughter and your principles.  I like your key message, "it is a love thing."  You are fortunate to have your daughter visit for support.  Based on your words, I am sure you are having a positive affect on her - and the others in your family - each time you are there for her.

Glenn

It's a pity children do not come with a manual on the  Do's & Don't's...but they don't. I think this advice comes from a loving Dad....who will be there for his children. Sometimes children have to learn the hard way. more the pity ( i know i had to)

As hard as your daughter is finding it, to make her own way in life....i'm sure eventually she will.

Cheers Janice

sounds like your a very caring father!

like all young adults she needs to  find her 'own way' out of the promblems she has created/allowed

tough love is needed as anything less would comprimise her succession in climbing the ladder of  experience/responsibility

im sure there will be plenty of hugs ahead

rue

Hi there,

Being a parent is the most rewarding thing ever BUT it is also one of the most stressful thing, especially when it come to our older children . . I often asked my self the same question as you have BUT now I know that I have done nothing wrong . . My eldest is just being a normal albeit a stubborn teenager . . .

I too have rules and it seems that my teen believes she is exempt BUT she now knows that this is NOT the case . 

Thanks for sharing your story . .

Cheers Kellz

It sure is a challenge. As long as you are consistent and keep a comunication open the opportunity is alsways there to accept your guidence when it is asked for if it is not always welcomed.

I'm sure most parents do try the best they can to look after their children. Sometimes the children just have to learn to grow up and handle responsibilities! The day where your daughter grows up will come, I'm sure of it. Hang in there!