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Parenting Emotions - Aspiration |
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by nell18-3  (March 2008) (rank 2nd) |
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We have so many dreams for our child
So many achievements for them to reach and grab for
We all want our child to be the next big name
the top Sportsperson/Model/Actor/Anchorman/TV Presenter
We quite simply want the very best for our child
And somehow we confuse that with money or fame
In this modern day culture of Reality TV shows, it seems that so many people want their 15 minutes of fame, if they don't make it, then they have failed. Celebrity Status seems to have become addictive and so many want a slice of this lifestyle
We also have the "pushy" parents who try to live their lives again, through their children. They push their child into an education/lifestyle/profession that they once dreamed of themselves, with the very strong belief that they know what is best for their child. All to often they don't recognise the pressure they are putting their child under to make a choice in life that they don't want to do but have little choice in their own destiny.
What do we do however if their dreams and aspirations are out of their reach but they can't see it ??
For instance my son wants to be a professional football player !
But, if he was going to achieve this dream, it is likely he would have already been spotted and getting intensive coaching.
Do I destroy his dreams and put him right so he can change his aspirations
Or do I allow him to find that out for himself in his own time,
I believe this is for him to discover in his own time, as he matures and realises that this profession is not achievable for him.
Having a passion for sport such as he has, is certainly not going to bring him any harm right now. In fact I would rather he was outside practicing with a ball then sat in front of a games console all the time.
We need our child to look back on their life and realise they are the person who they once aspired to be.
They are proud of who they are, what they have achieved and how they got there
Our aspiration for our child is not about what we want for them
Its about encouraging them to be able to be content they achieved what they wanted out of life
Our main aspiration for our child should be for them to have Health and Happiness.
