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Who would have thought having a child would make you lonely
What is that all about ????
After all you know have company 24/7
So why do I feel so Lonely??
is it just me who feels this
way?
When does it get better?
So why is it when we have our baby we get these feelings of Loneliness.
I love my children dearly, I wouldn't be without any of them, even when they are driving me crazy, i still would rather they are with me than away from me, but even when they are around, I still feel very lonely at times
I missed adult conversation, I could go for days at a time with barely any communication with other adults, no socialising, no plans to look forward to and those people I did see always seemed to be doing exciting things that I sometimes felt I was missing out on.
The times you do plan something it takes such a lot of effort for the timings and arrangements for the children that you are exhausted before you even leave the door, then the chances are that you spend the whole time worrying that the children are okay anyway !!!!
If you don't work and are a stay home mum, that can be extra isolating, you can end up with such strong feelings of frustration and resentment you find yourself feeling so sorry for yourself you are no longer having quality time with your child, instead you are clock watching until you have your partner home, or if you are a single parent you don't even have that to look forward to so you spiral down even faster.
So now we all know that we all as parents experience these feelings of loneliness, what can we do about it ??
If, like me, its not a break from your child you are looking for, just an adult to chat to at the same time, here are some suggestions:
Post Natal Groups:
If you were part of an ante natal group/birthing group, arrange to keep in touch after you have the baby. All your children will be of a similar age, so you will have similar issues and dramas to discuss over coffee.
Toddler Groups:
This is where a group of Mums get together with their children, much like a playgroup/kindy only the Mums stay and are all responsible for their own child. Your child gains communication skills and mixing with other children and you gain a coffee and a chat with other parents in the same situation as you. If you can't find a Toddler Group, why not start your own, I did when mine were tiny, and even though i am no longer involved, the group is still running today. We rented a small hole, asked for donations of toys, did some fund raising and had a £1 a week fee, which covered the cost of your coffee and a bit extra to save up for more toys.
Join a Gym:
Lots of Gyms nowadays provide a creche facility too, so you can work out and feel good about yourself knowing your child is being well catered for nearby
College Classes:
Gain a skill at the same time as mixing with others, or if its not a skill you are looking for maybe it could be joining a group of like minded people, for instance a book club, a craft club, a sewing club, scrapbooking etc
When you are experiencing these feelings of Loneliness, don't lock yourself away from everyone, isolating yourself even more and slipping even more down the emotional slope to depression.
Make the effort to talk to other parents even if it is only on a web network if you live in an isolated area.
Just make sure you remember there are lots of parents out there just as Lonely as you
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