Where have manners gone?

i agree totally manners seem to be a thing of the past we always say to our son manners are free so use them . i have been out before and i had said thankyou to my son and he replied ' your welcome' as he always does and the look on some of the peoples faces were like shock lol

but he is no angel he can be a bit naughty and use bad words but it really gets to me when he bumps into someone and he says sorry without being told to and they ingnore him or grouch at him  

Lovely article, there are plenty of manners about - unfortunately few of them are good!  My little man and all of his friends have lovely manners, at least his daycare friends, and other playmates.  I hope that this is a sign that the current generation of parents have a better attitude and understanding of the importance of imparting this skill and kind attitude in their children.

I absolutely agree with you . To say please and thankyou and have good manners,costs nothing.But, I don't think the younger generation can not be entirely to blame for lack of good manners.Only today I held a door open for two elderly ladies in a shop and not one of them said 'thankyou'.My kids were with me and they asked me why they didn't say thankyou,I told them because they were ignorant.Also,a few weeks ago, I went on a bus with my niece.An elderly gent got on so she stood up to let him sit down.He said he would rather stand-fine. But then,5 mins later he said to the chap stood next to him,'youngsters of today have no respect,she's sat there while I'm stood here'. I couldn't believe it!! A lot of the older generation can be very rude and ignorant.

Totally agree with you

I have a huge contempt for bad manners

xxx

Hi there,

I totally agree with you. Sadly in today's society many people have forgotten to use even the most basic of manners such as please and thank you . . I find it disgraceful and like you I have taught my children well . . I love being completed on my children's good manners and it amazing how often I am complimented. There are so many people that simply are just not used to hearing manners . . How sad.

Cheers Kellz

Absolutely agree............if you teach your child manners then everything else seems to follow suit.

Amanda xxxx

I've also taught my children to grow up and say thankyou and please, and the exact things you have done with your children. It does make you proud doesn't it when you do get positive feedback from other people.

I was also bought up like this with everyone else who's commented.

This is excellent advice....i to was brought up in an age of manners & respect for your elders.

It is refreshing when you hear a child say, PLEASE, THANKYOU, EXCUSE ME or hear a child address an older person with respect.

Cheers Janice

I totally agree. Manners are very hard to find these days.  

In regards to the Mr and Mrs. I think that is perfect...   I myself was brought up like you.. It is always Mr and Mrs until other wise told, I even now days have a hard time dropping the Auntie and Uncle from names as they think often think I am old enough to drop that.. But really I like saying Auntie and Uncle...

When I was in year 12 a lot of teachers decided to go by their first name..  I think it is a respect thing that should be taught to everyone...  I still have friends parents I call MR and MRs....   RESPECT..   It is an amazing thing.

Great advice,, and i have always drummed into my children that they can be whatever they want to be in life, that is legal, but always remember their manners, and show respect to your elders....

Recently my neighbour had her sil stay for 2 weeks,  and she commented on how well mannered and spoken my children were.... Yes they have their days, but what children dont....

xxx cazza

I completely agree with you and am often disgusted at the way some children talk and carry on.
My daughter is almost 3, and has been using her manners from the day she could talk, because i too, believe that children should be courteous (as adults should be too) and i was also raised to use manners etc. I do have to remind her occasionally to say please or thank you, but not often! She also excuses herself if she wants to talk to me and i am talking to someone else.
Thankyou for sharing with us, your thoughts on the modern day society..... i share the same opinion as you, and i am sure many mintiers would!