Holiday or not

Re: parents opinions please!
Asked by Amerlinwinga

Question:
 

Hi Everyone again!

This isnt a parenting question really but dont know where else to put it. A few months ago a friend of my hubby's comes up to us and says would

we like to go on a holiday to brisbane....We replied yes we love to so he went and paid for our airline tickets (so the tickets are paid for by our friend, his shout! )and we would be staying at his mums so we wont have to pay for accom. There is a week and a bit left before we leave!

I have found out that he booked 2 tickets rather than 4 and i didnt say anything straight away bec i though maybe my partner and i could do with a holiday by ourselves. Now that is only a week and a bit away i dont think i can go..... Without my kids.    I think i would feel guilty expecially wen we go to australia zoo ect where i know my 2 and 3yo would really enjoy being there as well.

Sorry about the long story but what i would like to know is What would you do as a parent??? Go or not and why? I asked if i could bring the kids but they want a adult fun holiday..... The other 2 couple are leaving there kids behind in melb but they are alot  older as well.

Thanks Tee

My Advice:

The 1st thing I will say is, Do you really NEED a holiday?
 

There are many things you can do on a tight budget with your whole family.

I know many parents would see it as an opportunity to have some time together as the kids are young and may not remember and it may be a while until you would be able to have a similar chance. But kids, from a very young age remember and learn sooooo much from thier environment.

My kids are big and ugly enough (shhhhhh.....don't tell them about the ugly bit) to make thier own way through life now and strangely enough it feels like yesterday when they 1st became a part of my life. When they were younger we had a few Family holidays together that we all remember well, as well as the days at the park, museum, rifle club and generally doing things together but this was cut short when my wife became ill. when parents are away from thier kids they lose a certain amount of responsibilty of thier care and this alone is a recipe for disaster. Keep your young ones close and you will always sleep well at night and if they need you then all they have to do is reach out.

I love my kids and would gladly give my own life if it meant they would live just 1 more moment.

So if it was my decission, the small amount of money I would have spent on an Adults only weekend I would go towards a terrific weekend with my tin lids. Nothing even comes a close second.

The time you as a couple spend with your kids will reflect well on each other and when the young ones are in bed you may end up having some sort of adults only escape yourselves as a reward for strong family values.

So whatever you decide have fun.

Robert