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....tell them you love them!
It doesn't matter what they've done or what they've said. When all is said and done, kids need to know you love them. Even though sometimes they drive you nuts, and of course they do things they aren't allowed to do, or supposed to do and they do it anyway, and sometimes you think your guna end up in the looney bin, tell your kids you love them.
My daughter is almost 6, and no matter what, everynight when she goes to bed I tell her I love her. During the day I say it too, but when she's been at school all day, or I've been at work and I don't see her until after dinner, I ALWAYS tell her at bedtime. And, 1st thing of a morning.
My reason for writing this is because I have seen 1st hand what it's like for a child to be deprived of love and affection. My aunty has 2 boys, now aged 13 and 11. As they were growing up, their parents split, they were shoved from pillar to post, their mum ended up in hospital for depression and other mental issues, and they have never really known that special 'bond' that most kids have with their mother, but alot have it with their father too.
The 13 year old moved to his dads place about 2 years ago now, and the 11 year old is going to live there next year. Why? Because their mum is too wrapped up in her own world to care. Then when her world falls apart she cries innocence. Don't get me wrong, I know everybody has their problems, but it's how we deal with what life throws at us and keep going that makes us who we are. She is too busy finding other to people to blame instead of taking responsibility for her own actions. And her kids are the one's to have suffered.
They don't have a kind word to say to anybody. They come to visit, they don't say hello, and when they leave they don't say goodbye. When their playing with other kids their cruel and tease them and think it's hilarious to make others cry. I don't blame them for that. This is how they were brought up. With no love shown to them. I don't have any doubt that she loves them, but going to the grog shop and buying a 6 pack of bourbon everyday is more important.
I saw her 11 year old 2 days ago, and my brother (also 11) and my sister (9) didn't want to play with him because of how he is. His face dropped at 1st, then he yelled 'Well I don't want to play with you idiots anyway!' and stormed off. It broke my heart.
No matter what, I believe you should always tell your kids you love them. Regardless.
(April 2008) (
