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4.77 (Highly recommend) from 8 votes (58 Visits)

The Child that Bullies other Children..

by cazza

(April 18th) (rank 2nd)

Its not Nice feeling when you get a note or call to say that your Child has being bullied at school.. And often it makes you wonder ''WHY'' does this child bully , and what is happening at home, and how is his/hers parents going to react. Often Bullies don''t work alone and have their Friends help them, as they think by being in a group its more fun.... Bullies don''t seem to understand and don''t seem to be fully aware how it can hurt and how much pain they inflict on the victim.

Bullies may have being bullied them selves, and feel that what goes around comes around, or their household may be disruptive, or they may have being Friends with the person before, and hold a Grudge now, and think the way to feel better is to Bully them...

Bullies can also feel the following:

Be Rachist- Don't like a certain colour, or religion of a another child, and feel because they look diffrent or act diffrent they deserve to be Bullied..

May get Admired - so they think its cool to boss others around, and it makes them look and feel good... and protects them from being Bullied themselves..

Impulsiveness- Sometimes (but not always) they find it hard to control their anger, may lack social skills on how to get on well with other peers.. so they think its clever and can be very Manipulative in how they act....

Most Children that bully are unhappy, and need to be taught how to learn how to be more Co- operative and be more Responsible in the choices they make...

So its up to us adults to work with the school etc, and see how we as a community can help the child feel their is more to life then being a bully, and it isn't COOL...

Hope that has helped in how to understand why children may bully..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| Kellzacar

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Hi Cazza,

You are so very right about 'bullies' and their learned behaviour . . It is a sad but true fact that young bullies usually learn their behaviour from old bullies . . As parents we need to find a way to teach our kids to look past the bully mentality while still protecting themselves from being bullied .

It is a hard balancing act but one that is very worthwhile . . .

Cheers Kellz

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Thank you Kellz..

and yes it is very hard... hope my tips can help others..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| nell18-3

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Thanks Cazza

When Daniel has problems at school its because some of the other kids like to see him go off on one of his rages (ADHD triggered) they provoke him behind the teachers back but when he explodes its in full view of the teacher and he was getting punished for it !!!!! I've had to work close with the school who were actually very helpful to try and sort this out

xxx

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

You are so welcome..

and i see that often at our school as well., thats why i wrote this article as kids can be so Manipulative, and so sneaky.. and Teachers need to work on this more..

Your Daniel is so sweet, and he doesnt deserve to be punished..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| pavementcracks70

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

its not acceptable and should be eradicated

we should encourage our children to seek justice for themselves and others. Lack of equal treatment for whatever reason is a sorry state as ALL miss out and not gain

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

I agree Bullying should not be allowed, but i wrote this article as there is always 2 sides to the way a child behaves...

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| Thea

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

My child is bullied but yet she still wants to be those girls friends and she wants to have them over for play time. I told her we were not having the very children that upset herin our home. She told me just because they are mean to her does not mean that she will be mean to them!! I was so proud of her for still caring about those girls feelings. But I will still not have them in our home. What do you think?

Thea

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Your daughter sounds so Gorgeous, and they should be more friendly to her.. Maybe let it go for a few weeks, and have the girls mums explain to them that Bullying isnt acceptable, and to be at someone else house they need to show respect...

I have had this happen with my daughter, and one day they can bully and the next they are all friends.. I have always said who needs friends like that, when the choices they make is so wrong, but its sad for both parties..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 18th \| AZMom

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Although a lot of bullying (at any age) tends to be derived from jealousy and low self esteem. Knowing what is behind the behaviour can do a lot to eradicate it or understand it.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

It is sad,and absolutely agree with what you have said here...

Understanding is the key Factor i have learnt from my children being bullied..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 18th \| sinstress

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Great advice, especially since it looks into the reasons why the bully might be the way he/she is and that can help solve the problem.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Thank you kell and i hope your kids never have to be in that situation and be bullied..

xx cazza

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 18th \| FremantleDocker

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Great article there cazza, and yes, it does give you more of an inside look of bullying and understand it more. Thanks for the tips.

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	5.00 (Excellent) \| April 19th \| cazza

Re: The Child that Bullies other Children..

Thank you means a lot to hear that...

xx cazza

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