How sad.  And some great advice!  Grandparents should be treated with respect!  I would never do that to my parents, they have the older one after his playgroup at their request one day a week, they miss him as they looked after him while I worked, am off on maternity leave at the mo.  At least you have the support of your granddaughter in this and she understands the situation.

Ju x

Fantastic advice im sorry your daughter and SIL  are making things so tough for you with your grandchildren. Its so wrong to use them as a weapon. Thanks for sharing

Luv Emz xxx

Oh how sad. This is a terrible story. My Mother and i have a perfect relationship. She is always there for me to fall back on no matter what luckily. I would never use her. Especially when i also help to provide for her. We support each other. She supports me when i need it and i support her. Your advice sounds very similar to this lady friend of my mother. Well thats what she thinks anyway. CONGRAts 

I am really sorry for the way your daughter is treating you. I hope it improves sometime soon.

I'm so sorry that you are going through this.  It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your granddaughter.  I hope that your daughter realizes how important  your contribution is to the family and she doesn't keep your granddaughter from you. 

Hi there,

OMG - I really feel for what you are going through . .  It is very sad when our children turn against us and try and manipulate us . . Even though my eldest is only 17 I have already had a huge taste of this and like you I finally took a huge step of saying NO . . For me I risked never seeing my daughter again BUT if I kept giving in then the cost there would have been so emotionally high . .

I wish you all the luck in the world and I strongly hope that you get to keep in contact with your granddaughter . .

Cheers Kellz

Totally agree with you

My 23 year old son has treated my parents his grandparents disgracefully, My son does not accept I was abused by his father, apparently phsychological abuse is not abuse in his eyes and his dad never hit me, just the walls or doors beside me Anyway I can just about understand its hard for him to accept his dad as an abuser and so have nothing to do with me, but to cut out his grandparents, uncles, aunts , even his sister and his two little brothers, is just so wrong. My parents are broken hearted and as much as I love my son, even though he hasn been in touch for over a year now, I am very cross with how he has treated his grandparents

xxx

that is a really sad story, cant imagine doing anything like that to any of my babies active grandparents they are all such wonderful people. i would really recommend expanding on this advice to include some more of your wisdom on the topic. things that you have learned along the way about dealing with this bizzar type of cruelty. and coping with the rough patches. it is a great topic to bring to minti as there are many grandparents online nowdays. thanks and ::)'s from becca!