This is'nt my story but sisters and im sure similar in some way to may parents here on mint that choose not to have the so called politically correct family....
My sister had alot of constant critisium for having 6 children, in my opinion for all the wrong reason’s, you can imagine family and freinds being worried about the strain on her body....how ever this hasn’t been the case at all infact there more concerned about her making the family a laughing stock...why?
With 6 gorgoeus kids she’s managed to beat the odds having a beutiful home and managing to train for her career. With 6 kids in tow “not an easy task”, they have had to make sacrifises, they still live in a rented house and would love the oppertunity to buy but as the years pass this becomes less and less likely, they have made mistakes along the way as we all do getting into debt etc but have worked hard to right the wrongs.
She is now a full time career looking after the elderly in the community who are still well enough to be in there homes were they want to be but sometimes need a little help cleaning, shopping, general house hold chores...this works well for them as there good hours so she gets time with the kids. I know we’d all like to think that we can take on the world and lets face it we women give it a dam good try, but she hasnt done it alone she has a fantastic husband who sacrificed his job in order to raise these kids, thats not to say he does it all,.... for years she only worked part time, the small minded assume this was for benifit purposes but infact it was really about putting the children first we all know that desighner clothes and the biggest tv etc dont make a family, its the love that you put into raising your kids to be the best they can be.
So her hubby is now the sahd....yep “stay at home dad” not sad although im sure he has his bouts lol who wouldnt he’s certainly got his hands full.... If they could do it over would they change the way they did things?...no how can you possibly ...
There have been times that have been difficult and who knows what might have been without the support of each other freinds and relatives, whome eventually came rd after years of them having to prove themselves ...maybe they sould be the one’s concidering doing it diffrently?
But even with the bad times there way has had alot of advantages they have had chance to see all 6 of there children take those first steps, say the first word share the tears on the first day of school, i imagine alot of us reading this will get that but many wont i culdnt imagine collecting my child from day care and missing the milestones....
Sometimes peoples comments get them down and they have that moment were you have to ask just what is it people want? Does it really effect ther life to any extent? The kids have had there share of bullying but thats soon been put to a stop with the support of the school now they have a community that adores them, they have shown people they can cope they arnt asking for hand outs and all the other small minded comments im sure you can imagine....
I know your reading and saying well this does'nt look like advice but I do have a point...
Open your eyes and look at the bigger picture years ago she would have been applauded for raising 6 kids so well now society looks apon them with disgust...they have'nt sat on her ass doing nothing, here is a family that had 6 kids because they wanted them, we all love them to bits, they try so hard to gain respect.....I wonder why they bother sometimes...she works full time they take care of their children, they have never asked anything of anyone they chose there life and they enjoy it,.... when there just let be...
Id like to say we’ll be following in her footsteps but... no i hold my hands up she’s done a great job but i dont think i could compete, ive wondered how shes managed so many times, maybe she’s stronger, or just a natural mum? But it can be done big familys can work...... who are we to judge?
If you want a big family then why not?...aslong as you understand that it does put a strain on you financially & emotionally, in my sisters case she had the support of her husband and talked through having more children very carefully, even her elder children were consulted as it effects them in a big way too, they could never have there own bedroom, but they learned to adapt to there situation they have grown up in a home not just a house they have freinds not just brothers and sisters and me i think im pretty lucky too each and every child is special in there own way, they have given me sleepless nights aswell lol now they are older they see me more as big sis and my kids will see them as more than just cousins, i couldnt imagine how life would be without them around kids have so much to offer and with the support of each other and all the relatives around them i cant see why they wont make it in this world....?
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