I have learned as a woman to FEED my husband first. Then, I can proceed with the routines of life. Otherwise,

Its chaos. FEED MAN, LEAVE ALONE. Then, he is happy.

Fabi

oh ok ok i get it!!!

"Whats for dinner" is more or less the first thing I ask my partner when I get home(he normally gets home first)as the answer decides my doings for the next 1/2 an hour or so.  If it was the other way around he would ask me the same question, this allows us to know exactly how and what eachother needs to do to make the evening as pleasant and easy as possible. Dinner time in our household is a time of coming together and sharing of our day...........and if in any way time gets away from us, we simply go out for dinner

....its interesting to see that a simple question like 'whats for dinner' can mean different things for some evoking an array of  feelings amongst people.............if one was to ask"wheres my dinner" i'll be the first to 'thump' them but that was'nt the question............

...but Fabi very smartly has made her point through HOW WE respond to simple everyday questions.................being a mother(or father) is hard work and dumping the day on one's partner can feel good( we have all been there) but even better is looking at the situation and at all times implementing strageties to make the day easier for all......and in our household "whats for dinner" allows us to know exactly what eachother needs to do to make the night a success....and if one of us is buggered well its either toast/leftovers or we go out ..........................we never have expectations of how the night will go.....however we work as a team to enjoy the evening as best as possible.......

Fabi your right when you say "life is interesting"....I say it can be 'amazing' as one wants it to be'............

Thanks for sharing, rue

look i can see what it is you had tried to say but honestly if my partner karl came home and said that to me i'd tell him to kiss my back side and make it himself karl knows that i like a clean house and dinner at six but he also knows that i'm not he's maid and if its not ready and i don't look like it'll be ready in ten he'll either cook for us or go and get some take away gone are the days where the woman does it all stuff him he can do his fare share if he thinks works harder then being an at home mum then i'll swap places any day that always shuts him up stand up on your own legs you wont fall

I wonder if your husband would then accuse you of having an affair-would be nice if people were honest within relationships instead of trying to complicate and already complicated life.

If your husband expects dinner when he gets home then it is usually because he has got accustomed to it-you make it daily and he will expect it daily-get it!?

if you have had a terrible day then say so and let your husband support you-erm i mean that's what marriage is...support each other in times of stress and love each other for what they can and can't do.....or did I take different vows!

Come on, you can put on the lipstick and go out for dinner but what about the rampaging kids that you talked about, a dinner and a kiss won't make the day go away so talk and 'off load' first and then breathe and get ready to go out for that dinner..beleive me you will enjoy your dinner and the company a lot more if you feel supported and more relaxed.

hugs and hope

Umm i do have to say that dumping your day on your hubby is called for haha.........they are his kids as well.

Hugs Tee

i do think fabi meant to say " im going out with my boyfriend... YOU " (directed at hubby)

then u go out with your hubby an enjoy yourself rather than making the day worse...?

Your husband asks what's for dinner and you put on your lipstick get out your credit and say something sexy like, I'm going out with my boyfriend?  Life would certainly be interesting if one were to follow this scenario - but is it advisory if one seeks happiness in their relationship with their husband, and harmony in their family life?

Huh?!

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I agree with dannii how is this advice???

Hi,

Im sorry but i odnt see how this is advice?? I think doing something like that would make matters worse.