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4.61 (Highly recommend) from 9 votes (63 Visits)

loss of a Mum

by cazza

(May 6th) (rank 2nd)

Mothers day is this sunday 11th may, and for some its not as happy as for others.. Some may not have a mum and feel at loss and think i wish my mum was here...

This is my personal advice, and how i over come the loss of my mum who walked away from the family..

It was 2004 and caitlyn was sick as, and couldnt keep nothing down, so we rushed her to the hospital where she was admitted for 7 days for rota virus..

So here i was thinking my daughter isnt going to make it, and wheres my mum when i needed her.. So for 3 days i tried reaching her by phone, and no answer.. I finally got hold of my dad, and he said i am so sorry to tell you this, but your mum is gone.. The first thing i was thinking, what do u mean she gone, has their being a accident, etc.. He then said no she has left and wont be coming back..

From there i was hurt, angry and couldnt understand how a mum that took in so many kids and had 5 gorgeous kids of her own could walk away..

So it was a long road and she came back to visit, and i looked at her, and she looked diffrent, and i said to her, maybe one day not Today YOU can explain to me WHY.. She looked at me and turned away..

My advice is this, when you feel alone and not sure what to do this mothers day, please remember that our children deserve for us to be happy, and Just maybe one day if your mum has let you down, or hasnt being there for you , may surprise you all..

For the ones that have lost their mum to death, please remember she is looking over you, and have your children look at photos to show who she is, and how important she was to you...

Also our children pick flowers and place where we laid our loved mum to rest... and have a prayer for your mum... Look at the sky and smile as she would be looking down on you with pride and joy

Its hard not to have your mum there when you need a guiding hand, but remember that what has happened to your mum was not your Fault,. and that just enjoy your day as if there is no other day...

xx cazza

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	May 7th \| Izzy

Re: loss of a Mum

My mother and I were never close, as I didn't really meet her until I was 14 years old (she left to work in another country and left me to my grandmother at age 3). At 14, I came to live with her and her husband and my 2 step brothers. During that time, she chose her husband over me. It hurt me, of course and even after I got married there were times when I got sad over it. But now that I have my own children, I have moved on. I no longer mourn for the lost relationship and I no longer think that it may be ME that was the problem - none of that. From now on it is all about my children and how I want to be the best mother I could ever be for them. My mother and I keep in touch because she wants to be there for my children. It's onward for me... always moving forward.

It's sad when we feel abandoned/unloved by your mother, but I think we can use this experience to be the best mother we can be to our own children.

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Absolutely agree there for sure Izzy, what might break you, makes you so stronger..

Have a happy mothers day on sunday..

xx cazza

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	May 7th \| Ravenheart

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this is great

xoxox

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	May 7th \| Ravenheart

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made me sad tho :( but thanks for shring

xoxoxoxoxo

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank u angie, and sorry it made you sad..

Hope you have a lovely day on sunday..

xx cazza

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	May 7th \| Ravenheart

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dont be sorry, its good to feel sad sometimes, it reminds us whats important.

xoxoxox

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	May 7th \| rgf

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U know Cazza maybe I shouldn't have read that as I have tears rolling down my cheeks.

I loved it

xxx Bec

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank you bec

And sorry i made you cry but being that you are special, i know that your mum would be so proud watching over you..

Have a happy mothers day sunday..

xx cazza

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	May 7th \| Kellzacar

Re: loss of a Mum

Hi Cazza,

Thanks for sharing your story. Losing a parent can be a difficult time for any child or adult . . The important thing to remember each mothers day if you have lost yours is to remember the GOOD times and try not to reflect on the sad or bad memories.

As a mum who has no family of my own I use mothers day to reflect on my own children, my thoughts and my love for them . . .

Cheers Kellz

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank you kellz

Have a great mothers day on sunday.

xx cazza

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	May 7th \| FremantleDocker

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I'm sorry to hear about your loss cazza. It must be so hard for you. I rarely have anything to do with my mum now, so i know how you feel. My mum has always pushed me away, and never really wanted anything to do with me, but get this right, she tried 5 years for me, but when i was born, she couldn't cope with me. I'll explain more later.

Hope you have the best mothers day this sunday, and i'm sure your beautiful children will spoil you to the max. Have fun, and hugs to you.

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank you, and yes sometimes its hard but i do have 3 beautiful children that love me heaps..

Hope you have a lovely day on sunday

xx cazza

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	May 6th \| kenny01

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Nice artical Cazza i always think of my mum on mother's day as unfortunatley she died when i was 14

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Hi kenny

Thank you for that compliment, and remember my last sentence, your mum would be looking down from heaven and be so proud of you..

Have a lovely day on sunday with bel and the girls..

xx cazza

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	May 6th \| Libby24

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i will never think of my mum on mothers day as she has never been there for me. and when ever i have done anything for her on mothers day it has never been good enought cause it isnt $$$.

great advice Cazza.

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	May 6th \| cazza

Re: loss of a Mum- Libby24

HI Liz

I understand where you are coming from, as my birth mum was the same.

But we have our gorgeous children and our hunky husbands, to help our day brighter on mothers day..

xx cazza

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	May 6th \| emmysmum

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sorry you had to go through this - it's not a very nice feeling.
I wish my mum was here everyday to share the good and bad times with me - and also to share the joy of my two beautiful children.
What keeps me going, is knowing that my mum is there up in heaven - looking down on me and my beautiful children and in some way - is telling me how proud she is of me!
Take care cazza and have a happy mothers day this sunday!

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	May 6th \| cazza

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Thank you kayla and no it wasnt a nice Feeling,. But in some way she helped me become who i am, and made me stronger person, and a very proud mum i am.

Your mum would be looking down and yes would be proud as..

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	May 6th \| LisaPetrarca

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Thank you for your wonderful advice. I'm sorry for your pain, please know that even though you don't have your mom around...you can still take joy in the fact that your children love and adore you. They will be excited to celebrate how wonderful you are, which in turn will help your day to be a happy one!

Take care and I will be thinking of you on Mother's Day!

Luv,

Lisa

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank you Lisa and you are so right about my children''s excitement for this sunday..

Hope you have a lovely day as well..

xx cazza

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	May 6th \| gecko-baby

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hi

thanks for sharing and it is a great reminder to us all and some wonderful beautiful ideas also.

gecko-baby

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	May 7th \| cazza

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Thank you gecko- baby..

xx cazza

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	May 6th \| electrifying02

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thanks for sharing cazza .

love ya

belxxx

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	May 7th \| cazza

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You are so welcome bel...

Hope You have a lovely day on sunday..

xx cazza

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