S E X and how to have a good relationship with your partner after a baby. #2

I am writing this on experience

this is #2 of my proberly never ending advice on what i have gone through.

Loss of s e x drive.

now this happens to alot of us women after the birth of our children. we go from being only our partners havign no strain on our day apart from work/study to having this little one depended on us in every way every second of the day. now after i had my daughter my s e x drive went from excessive (yeah sorry to much info but every day a few times a day) to no igistant. this caused  my hubby and i to have alot of marital problems to a piont where we almost split up. i can say that no s e x after 7 months does that. i just went completely cold turkey and was repeled by the whole idea of it. how we got over this was.

firstly my hubby came to me and told me we had a problem. he didnt give me an ultamatum or anything but he did stress that it was hurtful to hima nd made him feel like i didnt love him any more.

so talk to each other. there is always a reason to why you have lost your s e x drive. most mothers are just so dam tired after caring for baby that it is the last thing on their mind after tea and dishes ect. so get your partner to help with dinner and dishes. the quicker it gets done the quicker you can be in bed.......hey it works for me....

have a s e x date. we do every week its up to you how many times you do. make it a real home date too. do kiddies dinner put them to bed then u do dinner. romance brings back alot of lustful feelings. back rubs, baths and all those nice things are great. candle light in the bedroom hides all those strechmarks and celulite too.

dont just love your partner lust for them too. you need lust to be there.

as i said in my other advise go on the net and look up the karma sutra book. seriously missionary is boring after a few years.

if you find  it intreaging, but first make sure you have a very good internet surcruity go on adult site. you can just do image searches on google. they have some nice and often tasteful pictures. also some good idea's too. you also can download movies or buy them off the net, or go into adult shops to buy some.

again if you want but toys are also good. you can buy them both online and in stores. i would advise for your first that you find a store and speak to someone as they give great advice. there are also party plans that you can have come to your house.  (for the last 2 do make sure that if you are in certain states that it is ok cause i remember my hubby saying some state in america i think you are not allowed certian things).

Make sure you do get a good lubricant the one i sugested in my first article i have found is the best (it also has an added bonus of if you have thrush it helps get rid of it.)

again take it slow. dont ever rush s e x. it is never good if you rush it.

i hope this helps people.