Showing Children love.

This again is advice I got from growing kids gods way. I have removed the religious aspect to it as not everyone is christian. I will add this is for couples and not single parents as they are the only one looking after the

child. But to me it is great advice.

OK the basis of this advice is Love. Now if you want the christian aspects in it please minti mail me and I will email it back to you. Love is a very strong thing and children thrive on it. As a man said to me last night (I was calling about concilouring) that when a child is born they are a blank canvas ready to be painted. It is their RIGHT as a child to get love and unconditional love at that. Now for a child to get love in a coupled family they get it from mum and dad. Now in todays society (I have had to change this bit to fit today) it is both mum and dad who work and often dad who stays home. Ok so theres the background to a household right…..

So of a afternoon, morning or whenever the spouse gets home what do you do? Well in my case when my hubby was working we chose to do it this way. Chris would walk in the door I would have a drink for him as he was always thirsty. He would kiss Johnny on the head and sit on the couch with me for 10 mins. This is called down time. It shows the child that they are not #1 but the other parent is. I am not saying neglect your child, but show them the love that you and your partner has. We would hug and chat and chat to our kids to. This is family time as well not just me time, that is more after kids have gone to bed. Then after this introduce the child to the seat with you. Let them sit on dad, even if he is messy. Chris was always covered in sillicon as he worked as a plumber for a caravan company. Then the cooking parent leave and let the other parent play with the child.

In this I learnt that Mum has a hard time looking after the child all day and needs time out. And that dad needs to look after the children too. So while mum is cooking it is the best opportunity to do so. Always eat dinner at the table and not in front of the tv. I will admit we are loungee eaters here. We don’t watch tv in my house, but we do download stuff and watch that. (I don’t like my kids watching the news which is on while dinner is being eaten and I don’t like the simpsons either) this  is great family time and a chance with older kids to discuse the days events.

Now Bathing and bedtime is, in my opinion a great time to show a child how parents work together. Chris and I took turns bathing and the other would dry and dress. Both read to them, mainly chris though as he makes great voices for the charaters and then both to bed. We have stopped the night reading now with Johnny as he gets hyped up.

Then after the kids are in bed they know it is mum and dad time. I have noticed with so many ppl that they just sit in front of the tv and have no partner time. We have set days were I have a particular show I like to watch so chris plays his pc games and I watch my tv.

Now this might sound funny but Chris has a wonderful memory of his childhood and knowing his parents adored each other and still do. (I think he is werid, but it makes him feel good to know his parents still u know what) but of a night it made chris fall asleep and be happy hearing his parents have a shower together of a night. I recently asked my kids if they new that mummy and daddy loved each other and they said yes and they love it. This made me feel good as even though they know mummy isnt well they new that mummy and daddy love each other.

Good luck and hope this helps.