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Re: I Feel Useless
Asked by LisaBown
Question:
Hi everyone...
Im a 20 year old single mum and i have a beautiful 19mth old daughter..I have been raising her on her own for about 11 months now and im finding
it so hard....Everything seems to be an issue for us,She refuses to sleep in her own bed and has to be rocked to sleep still!She throw the biggest tantrums and i have no idea how to deal with it and thats just the start of our problems.I have no help or advice and nothing i do seems to work.How can i help my child and me become a happier family?How can i be a better mother?She seems miserable and grumpy all the time and i know i am...please if anyone has any advice it would be truly appreciated!!!THANKYOU
My Advice:
Hi Lisa,
The fact you are only 20 and doing it alone, I am 31 and have a partner with a 19 month old boy and I struggle everyday! Caleb has always been a fractous child, he is always needy of my time and I am having to find things every five minutes to keep him entertained! Here are some ideas for you to perhaps try with your daughter! You can just take what you want from the ideas and ditch the ones you do not like! lol.
Going for walks in the pram or a bike (even for 10 minutes) is a great one for mum and bubs!
Water play, any form of water play with plastic toys or containers, food colouring in the water is a good one.
Wiggles, High five, Dora, Thomas, are a big saviour for me, I am a fond fan of Dvds I think the kids can learn music and dance and lots of educational things from these entertainers and programmes :).
Joining a coffee group or a playgroup a couple of days a week and actually go with your daughter, do you know at the same time you will meet other mums and build a friendship at the same time! :0 They do young mum groups too, well in Nz they do, I dont know what country you are from?
Dance and music is good
making musical instruments
music groups are good, in new zealand we have mainly music run by local churches, you do not have to be religious, i am not
hope some of these help you?
nat x
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