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Love is a Gift
In most cases, we choose who to give that gift to
Sadly there are times when we can't help but give Love to the wrong person
Or the love we give is turned against us and trampled on
But one thing I do know.......
the love I have for my children is Endless
I give it to them freely and even if I hate some of their actions
The love I have for them remains steadfast, strong and everlasting
It truly breaks my heart at times when I do prayers with my children and my youngest prays that one day his father will love him
How can I help him with that??
How can I explain that his father isn't capable of love?
How do I make my son understand that real love sets no conditions?
Maybe the one good thing that has come out of my oldest son cutting me off after I left his father, was that my three children that are still with me, know that it matters not to me if they are sometimes naughty, or rude or disrespectful, naturally I would rather they were angels 24/7 but life isn't perfect and we all know that. But what they do know with 100% surety is that I (their mother) have a love for them that will never end or fade.
How do they know this???
Because no matter how my oldest son ignores me, hurts me, betrays me, offends me........all my children have ever heard me say is that "I Still Love Him !!" They know I don't like his recent actions, the way he has hurt us all, the fact that he has cut himself off from not only me but his siblings, grandparents, uncles.......The fact that he has never given me the opportunity to speak to him.
Words cannot express the pain in my heart everytime I think of my son, the way he used to lie in my arms, laugh with me, enjoy my company. However with every breath in my body....... I LOVE MY SON !!!!! Its his actions I don't like NOT my son himself.
My daughter, always the most feisty of my four children, has long portrayed herself as the strong independent girl, confident to speak her mind and she often does !!!!! OK So she always does..........to me anyway.
But my youngest boys have been hurt, rejection by a parent must be something that you never really get over, I am one of the blessed ones who has loving parents that would never dream of abandoning any of their children. I know lots of people that still have scars over recovering from that kind of rejection and its something I would have never wanted for any of my children. This is one of the reasons why although my oldest has no contact with me, I regularly send him messages of love, I need him to know that I have not rejected him and I need to remind him that my love is forever. One day I just KNOW he will stop ignoring me. My son is still half of me and that is the half that will keep swimming against the current and surface to come home again
My younger boys and my daughter, know my love for them is endless, I have proved it by letting them see the depth of Love I still have for my son, they are able to be confident, vibrant personalities with me. Even when they are in trouble they know that there is nothing frightening about me being cross with their actions, words or disrespect.......their Mum loves them forever, even if I am yelling at them, which I do........frequently
I urge all parents to make sure you tell your children always that Love from a Parent is forever, they can do nothing to lose your love. Because with a parents love backing you all the way, only then can you fly and be yourself, because its having the full love and support of our own parents that has allowed myself and my brothers to find our own wings and fly knowing they are sitting watching us with pride and knowing they will be there for us if we falter
(June 2008) (
men do find it hard to show their love which is sad.
