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Emotional Abuse- Not just an Adult problem !!! |
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by nell18-3  (June 2008) (rank 1st) |
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When your child is hurting
You work hard at sorting out the problem and trying to put things right
What if the hurt is to their mind
What if your child is being emotionally or psychologically damaged
What can you do when your child is screaming at you, holding their head
Pleading for you to make it stop
Begging you to make the other parent leave them alone !!!!!!
I have an opinion that the best situation for any child is a child to grow up confident that not only do their parents love their children unconditionally but that the parents also have a great love and respect for each other too
Every child deserves TWO loving parents in their life
I for one, know that for my children that is not an option. Sadly I am also of the belief that it is better for my children to have no Father at all rather than the Father they actually have.
My youngest has done so well, coping with all the dramas in his life, he has been hurt, let down and rejected by his father so many times, yet still cries for the love of a Father.
This week he had a birthday, he has had his last several birthdays ruined !!!!
In 2005 he hadn't seen his dad in a few days and his dad came home, my son was excited and trying to tell him about his birthday, it was his 8th birthday, he ran over to his dad with his birthday cake, but his dad was talking and asked him to get it out of his face.............Daniel held it up one last time, trying to get his dad to see it, but the cake slipped and landed in his dads lap. You can guess the rest
In 2006, he came home from a birthday visit to his dad, I hadn't seen his dad for a couple of months at this stage, the divorce was in hand by now, He returned Daniel to the home and then in front of both boys, actually they were stood in the middle of us, he had me backed up against a wall as he yelled at me, I got away to run to my bedroom only for him to follow me, both boys by now shouting and screaming that he would leave me alone !!!!!
In 2007 He had mind games in effect and was eventually let down over a visit with his dad eventually spending 2 hours of his birthday with the duvet over his head crying that he wanted to die !!!!
This year, we were prepared, we talked and decided that NOTHING was going to spoil his birthday. It was going to be his day and no matter what happened we were going to ignore it. A few days before his birthday he had the email where it was my sons fault he had heard nothing from his dad in almost 10 weeks !!!!! Then he said he would be dropping a present at my parents for him. My son got his present, he was excited and expecting it to be something to do with the one sport he watches with his dad.......wrestling !!!! (Yea I hate it too and he isn't allowed to watch it here !!!!)
So he ripped open the packaging to find a keyring with his name on it. There was no more anonymous present he could have chosen but a keyring !!!!! It screamed out that he knew nothing about his son at all !!!!!!!!
So this week has been .............interesting. My son has once again in his mind experienced rejection.
He is a child that has been hurt once again, the fabulous presents and the great trip to Dr Who have faded away, instead his birthday seems to me about a keyring that is still sitting where he threw it!!!!!!
So if you are in a happy relationship with your childs other parent, be extra loving to each other, let your child bask and gain strength in watching the love between their parents
If you are another of those not so fortunate parents, where raising your child seems to be more about damage limitation and trying to stop your child from being hurt more and more. I understand you.!!!!
Children are our greatest gift and they should be the celebration of love, created in love and raised by love. All I know is that I as a single parent will not rest until I know I can look back and say I did a good job raising my children
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Court
