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GUN SAFETY!!

Aaliyah by Aaliyah Talking(July 3rd) (rank 178th)

I was thinking to myself as I was fixing my blog that perhaps my blog post may serve a good purpose in the way of GUN SAFETY.  To often we hear in the news of tragedies and it can really never be stressed enough about the importance of responsibly owning a gun with children and even young adults in the home.  My dad does civil war re-enacting in the state of Oklahoma and he provided a public service demonstration to show that even BLANKS can harm people. 

Since my original posting of this I have decided to add my story, I did not believe it to really be necessary because I thought every parent would be in agreement regarding this issue. 

When I was about 14 years old, my youngest brother and I got up from our Commodore 64 to go see what the other two were doing.  It was too quiet.  Upon reaching the door of my parents bedroom a bang rang through out our house.  When my father returned home I told him what had happened and he brought us to the room where it happened.  He made me stand by the door where the bullet went through and showed my two brothers that if I had stepped one more foot in the room, I would not have survived.  He then began teaching us gun safety.  It was the last time my brothers ever went in my parents room.  And my father did his part.  We were always told to not go into our parents room and they must have been blue in the face telling us that, but my brothers were curious and found what they found and the rest is history.  It could have been a tragedy that day but we were lucky.  And here I am to share my story and a bit of advice that can hopefully help to prevent tragic accidents.

I invite you to view this small video and if you own a gun please heed the warnings and educate your children and yourselves.  Please also visit this website put on by the FBI that not only educates about GUN SAFETY but it also educates about other things that are very important regarding our precious little ones.  (there is use of guns in the video for demonstration purposes, however the main part is the beginning and anything after that was left from the news media.  i did not prepare this video myself, it was done by local news stations so if you were to watch your local in oklahoma during this time frame, you would have seen the same video played out in your living room.) DO NOT WATCH THIS VIDEO TO CRITICISE.  WATCH THIS VIDEO WITH THEN INTENT OF EDUCATION AND PARENTING.  AGAIN, THE OPENING PART IS THE DEMONSTRATION REGARDING USE OF BLANKS IN GUNS AND EVEN BLANKS ARE NOT SAFE, KIDS THINK THEY ARE. THE REST IS JUST WHAT THE NEWS STATION LEFT ON FOR THEIR BROADCAST SO IF YOU FIND THE REST NO APPROPRIATE FOR THIS POST, I APOLOGIZE BUT I HAVE NO CONTROL OVER THAT AND IF YOU LIVED IN THE AREA YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN IT ON YOUR NEWS STATION ANYWAYS.  IT'S EASY TO CLICK STOP AFTER THE FIRST PART. 

 

 

I hope this serves our Minti Community in a good way and hope that everyone will benefit.  So many times sound advice is ignored because some think that it can not happen to them.  This video might not be for everyone and you do have the option to just not view it.  But if you have older children at the age of understanding, perhaps it will help and serve a purpose in your family.

Here are a couple links with stories of recent accidents and ways to be more safe, except the one I put above for the FBI, regarding gun safety and our children:

COMMON SENSE ABOUT KIDS AND GUNS

PROJECT CHILD SAFE (this site encourages parents to get free gun safety kits from local law enforcement offices in your area)

There are countless resources out there and this is just the ones I have put.  If you live in another country I am sure your local law enforcement agency can either help you or point you in the right direction.

Lets not kid ourselves about the seriousness of this, we all know it is important and a reality.  Closing our eyes or sticking our heads in the sand will unfortunatley not make it go away.  Let us not be the one's wishing we did more.

Aaliyah

 

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curiousnamow
July 9th | curiousnamow
Re: GUN SAFETY!!

When reading the advice I found it difficult to understand why such controversy was given to a topic so serious as gun control and the safety of children. In the US, there are shootings of children, teens, adults every day that come from people who are uneducated, angry, and don't think about death by guns. It scares me thinking about how much violence is accepted in this world, due to numbing by repeated reports, videos and tv new, and how some condone the use of guns as a 'right' to own. I too have strong feelings, and have not let my son play with guns, nor own gun toys as I don't believe any type of gun is a toy. At 12, he now makes them out of his legos, in the past he's used sticks to pretend the use of guns in play. I just say the same thing, "guns kill" and are not a toy. The fact that your parents room was 'booby trapped' and you were told  not to go inside the room, is a classic example of how accidents can happen in an instant and the result is a life time of horror.



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cassaustin
July 6th | cassaustin
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Great advice! We live in the country and guns are a very real part of our life. My partner has guns locked in our shed, however the rule is only he knows where the gun safe keys are and only he can get to them. My father has guns on his property too and rules are the same there.

I believe that guns and children are an aweful combination too, and before i moved to the country i was about as anti-gun as you could get. I have realised that they are a necessity when you live in the country thou. And while i myself have still never even held one, i have accepted that they will be on my property.

My son will most certainly be taught the dangers of guns and he will be taught gun safety as soon as he is old enough. Til then, he wont know that we own them.

At the end of the day, i would prefer my son to know what they are and know about gun safety, then for there to be an accident because he was curious and no one ever told him what they were.

Thanks, Cass xx



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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Thank you so much for understanding the point of the post.  You worded it so very nicely



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Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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I appreciate all the views presented here in the comments.  To own a gun or not own a gun was not why the post was put up.  It was put up in an effort to provide a resource to parents should they actually own a gun.  It was never intended to be one sided for owning and not owning.  Simply posted as a resource that some may not have been aware of. 

It's not realistic to believe that our children will never come in contact with a gun and I would rather have a prepared child over a dead child.  Teaching them to know how to react when they are presented with a problem such as this or strangers etc, is a parenting responsibility.

I also think that some comments were made with their childs age in mind which is understandable but not really a fair "judgement" of the over all picture here.  Some of us have much older children and common sense would dictate that we can not be there every second of their day and at times they are presented with some serious choices.  Peer pressure is a lot on children and warrants our attention wether is be about guns, drugs, strangers and even the internet.

No matter how many times we think we have covered something there is still that chance, they will not listen and make the wrong choice.  Even when we do our best to prevent it, for example, not having a gun in the home or not allowing toy guns is still not a guaruntee our children will never come in contact with one.

Please do not make this post out to be about pro gun ownership or anything like that.  It is just simply a post with a resource to educate our precious children and ourselves.  Even at the FBI site, this site is geared, I believe, towards 5th Graders and up.  So that is the reality of gun situations.

To rely on a countries strict gun laws would be irresponsible as not everyone, wether you are from the US or Australia, follows the law.  I would never fully rely on a countries laws to protect my children.  I can only hope that the strict laws would help in regulating the amount of guns people own and pray that my child will never have to encounter one or be in an accident with one.  So as a parent, it's up to me to stress that seriousness to my child of what to do if one of their friends pulls out a gun.  It's up to me to teach then, not my countries laws.

In Amercia we have too many "accidents" that could have been prevented had the weapon been properly stored and locked. 

This is not saying one country is better than another but it does warrant a look and further validates my point that as a parent, it is ultimately my responsibilty to teach my child how to handle bad situations wether it be gun, drug, or internet (to name a few dangers) related, I can not put my trust in a law to protect them.

So, as a parent, when I feel the time becomes important to educate my young boys about guns, I will.  But I also have a 16 year old daughter and she has friends.  Maybe at her friends house there is a gun or maybe she is at the movies and they step outside and a friend pulls out a gun.  Who knows what situation will arise.  But I do know that I have to do my part and be responsible and hope that my child will make the right decision.

Minti is a global community and we all need to keep that in mind because not every country has the same laws regarding gun control.

 



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      llmunchkin
July 24th | llmunchkin
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Absolutely Aaliyah, it is a very valid piece of advice... Liking guns or not, having them or not was definitely not the issue.  The issue is GUN SAFETY, and all parents should be interested in finding out about anything that makes life safer.



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emmie
July 5th | emmie
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Great advice

Thanx for sharing



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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Thank you.



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Izzy
July 5th | Izzy
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I don't think there should be a question that gun safety is a topic that concerns parents. Whether anyone disapprove of gun ownership or not, people do own them... that is people with kids own them!  If you are a parent who so highly disapproves of guns that you don't even discuss guns in your household, what happens if your child happens to be invited to a party who has guns in their homes? What happens if you didn't even know they had guns in their home? 

Here in the U.S., I've heard of such a news where a kid goes over to a friend's house and in that home, guns are accesible to kids. And the kids play with the guns and a tragedy happens. Now, I'm sure there is no parent out there who would let your kids hang out in another's home if you knew there are gun are accessible, but what if you didn't know? So trully, everyone should know about gun safety whether you believe in the use of guns or not.

My husband owns rifles and hand guns. I didn't know anything about guns before I met him, and quite frankly, I was freaked out when I found out. But after he educated me about it, I am no longer afraid of it. Each gun has it's own lock that prevents each gun from being fried. And the hand guns are in a gun safe that has its own lock. And the then the guns are hidden away in an even bigger safe with lock. I take guns very seriously and don't even want one pointed at anybody when it's being cleaned (apart) and empty.  To also share with you our views (my husband and me) on guns, we have not allowed our son to play with guns. It was quite a shock to us when he came home from school pretending to shoot us. That prompted us to say that shooting people is bad. We chose to even delay the use of the word "gun" when using a water gun. We call it "water squirt" instead!

My father in law was in the military and takes guns seriously and he instilled the same knowledge and respect about guns to my husband. This means that when our son is old enough to fully understand the gravity of this weapon, he will be educated on it (not the mechanism of the gun, but the truth that it is a weapon that can take life).

My husband and I use to go target shooting at a target shooting facility, but it's been a while. But it doesn't mean I am for the idea that every joe-shmoe should have one.  Guns are inanimate objects. They don't shoot by themselves. People shoot guns. We cannot erase th existence of guns. Countries go to war with each other using guns.



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      Izzy
July 5th | Izzy
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I would also like to add that  my husband and I went to a party ones and there a couple of guns visible to everyone. There is not even an attempt to hide it, it was on the coffee table! I was highly uncomfortable and made the decision that should we ever be invited there again, I would definitely not go! Fortunately, there were no kids in the party and the couple had no kids themselves. But is not too far fetched to think that there are parents out there who treats gun with the similar disrespect.



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           Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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When I read some recent events involving toddlers who had been accidentally shot, the parent had taken for granted that the children would just know to stay away from the area that mommy and daddy said was off limits.  Children are just very curious and it's impossible to see every movement they make at every second of the day.  I do wish it was possible though, I still jump at every little bitty sound.

I sometimes think people just assume out of sight out of mind type thing and that is far from solving the issue.  I would have felt uncomfortable to seeing something like that laying around so openly, and in a mixed bunch of people.  Who knows what the mood of everyone is or how rapidly it could decline when you add in other factors.  Having it out in plain view and accessible is dangerous in my opinion.  I don't blame you for not wanting to go back, I don't believe I would either.



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llmunchkin
July 5th | llmunchkin
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Whether or not you approve of guns is irrelevant really... Guns exist in our society, for whatever reason that people choose to have them.  This article is about safety, and in principle as a parent, or any caring citizen, safety to our children should be paramount.  This is a parenting website and this is a safety article with advice to keep children safe... Seems to me that this is the appropriate place for this advice article.



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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Thank you for seeing the point of my post.  Seeing as it is, a piece of advice and resource. 



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Rukia
July 4th | Rukia
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I am dead against guns. I also have had my hubbys grandfather taken by a psyco who used a gun. I refuse to by even a toy gun for my son.

i dont think this should be here.



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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Thank you for your comment. 

The post is not about being against or for guns.  It's about teaching our children how to properly handle a situation involving guns should one ever happen.  Like I stated before, this is a piece of advice providing resources for those that may not have known there are resources available.  Of course we use our own judgement when we think our children are old enough to understand this and it's not any different that schooling our children about what to do when a stranger approaches them.

Again, take this for what it is, a piece of advice, not a stance of for or against.  it's ultimately up to you if you use it or not and no one will judge you for the decision you decide.  You choose what works best for you.

 



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MrsSanders
July 4th | MrsSanders
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I can imagine this article will entice strong views, but actually I find it very sensible. Your story goes to confirm the reality of gun ownership and the dangers it can pose when the right precautions are ignored. It is too easy for adults who are brought up with guns around to forget that, children do get curious. Dont touch, is not a realistic way to protect against tradgedy, so the smart thing is not to have a gun around children in the first place, but if one feels it necessary, then be sensible and lock it up securely and firmly.

If for some reason, though I cant think of one, a child will be taught to shoot, then gun safety should be rammed home, and seen to be understood as second nature, before a child ever gets to touch one.

Thankyou for sharing a controvesial topic. Sadly there are guns out there, and kids do get their little hands on them,sad but true, no point in burying our heads in the sand.

Luv Winnie.xxxx

 



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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Thanks Winnie.  It is very sad that tragedies occur because of a gun being improperly secured.  I am glad you see the point of the post as being just advice and nothing more.  It is unfortunate that some will view it in other ways and I sincerely hope that people will just take it for what it was meant to accomplish.

That was to provide a resource for those that possibly need it and to educate should a situation with a gun ever happen with our children. 

Again, thank you.



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Kellzacar
July 3rd | Kellzacar
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Hi there,

Whilst this is quite a good article I really don't think that it is appropriate for a parenting site . .  I personally have very strict views on guns and I will not even allow toy guns in my home and YES that also includes water guns.

I strongly believe that the US government should hang their heads in shame at their lax gun control! What a bad example they are setting for their future generations. This is one of those times when I AM proud to be an Australian as we have some of the toughest gun laws around, through our laws we are teaching our children the respect that ALL human life deserves. Guns are a highly influential item and they should be very very strictly monitored and our children should NOT be allowed to use these as toys . .

Cheers Kellz



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      kseers
July 4th | kseers
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Hi Kellz!  I agree with you on everything else, but there are parents who have guns and they need to be thinking of them in terms of safety for their children.  Yes, in Australia it is mandatory as part of your licencing to be aware and meticulous about safety - not so elsewhere and this is a global site.  So, yes I'm with you, but I do think it is something some parents need to have brought to their attention (witness the number of stories you hear - especially in the US - of kids picking up guns and having a "play" with disastrous results).



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           Kellzacar
July 4th | Kellzacar
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Hi Matey,

I realise that I sound very stern about my beliefs but I do understand that some families (ie. country farms) need to have guns and for that reason I STRONGLY believe that guns should be for ADULTS only and that children should not be allowed them . .

My husband grew up with guns and was always going out shooting with his father etc when he was younger and he also agrees with me that guns and kids DO NOT mix, no matter how well they are taught. My hubby has no desire to share his knowledge with our children nor does his brother share his knowledge of guns with his sons.

I understand that there is a reason for some families to have firearms BUT there NO reason for a child, Guns are the SOLE responsibility of adults and they should be kept completely locked away from ALL children.

Sadly as a farm girl myself I have seen some really bad accidents with guns and children and sadly I lost a friend to a gun accident. My friends father is doing time for his daughter's death as he was found guilty of negligence and must now live with the fact that he "thought" his gun was locked away!

I believe that ALL adults should have gun safety lessons and these should be updated on a regular basis, I also believe that anyone owning a firearm should be open to inspection from the authorities so that safety can be maintained. . .  However these are just my thoughts and I am aware that the majority do not this way . .

Cheers Kellz



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                kseers
July 4th | kseers
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Hey, Kellz, I agree with you - sadly not all adults are as responsible.  I think you will find in Oz that licenced owners can be subjected to inspection by the police and do have safety training, but not every adult is licenced.  See my post below if you want my thoughts.



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                     Izzy
July 5th | Izzy
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Might I add that this goes not just for adults, but for adults with kids! Not all parents are responsible, especially when it comes to gun safety.



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kseers
July 3rd | kseers
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I'm intrigued now as to what kind of feedback you got from your original post? 

I am quite anti-guns and won't have toy guns in my house, yet my husband is a licenced shooter and member of the sporting shooters association.  It has caused a degree of conflict, but he is very sensible and has very strict rules about guns, so we are content to differ on this point.  Here in Australia we have very strict rules on gun ownership and gun licencing and their owners must be licenced and follow basic safety protocols - eg fire-arms are kept in a locked, secured safe for which only the licenced owner has keys (I don't have access to them), the ammunition and parts of the gun are stored separately, also locked (so if you break into one safe you don't get both).  My husband has never shown the children his guns, even when he goes shooting he removes them while I distract the kids  as he thinks they are too young to understand and be safe around them. 

We also have the same rule as on the film that even if my child did find one he is not to touch it but to come and find an adult (same rule for spiders and snakes where we are) - this is necessary as we live in the country.  Also guns, even toy ones (and we do come across them if not in our house) are never to be pointed at people - even in fun!

Ideally perhaps we should not have guns and children together - but as in this modern age many people do, it is essential that parents be responsible with them and know how to handle them and also be teaching our children that they are not toys to be played with.  Sadly accidents happen far too often (though Australia has very few thanks to our tight regulations) and our children are too precious to be lax about it.



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      Izzy
July 5th | Izzy
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My husband owns guns and we've discussed how we would go about it introducing the idea of guns to our children. As you know our son is 3, but my husband and I have discussed that it will be a long time before our son even knows we own guns.

Before I met my husband, I was against guns too. But I think for me, I was a little naive. I know now that it isn't guns I was against, but it's the people who own it and do not respect the power that it holds. What I am against now are people who carry guns in their day to day lives (except authorities that is). A lot of places here in the U.S. allow people to carry guns around (sometimes concealed).



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      Aaliyah
July 6th | Aaliyah
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This is still my original post and I decided to just add a couple of more links in regards to some recent accidents with toddlers and guns.  I also added my story from when I was younger.  My post was first reported because someone did not feel that my post belonged here.  The other two was because of two words I used in the post.  I won't put them here because my comment will get put on hold but they are still in my post.

Again, I never put the post with the intentions to stir a debate, that wasn't even a thought until some made comments and I felt I had to make a comment to "explain" that this was just a post with a resource.  It is not my business how anyone runs their own household or what each will and won't allow.

I just was thinking to offer a resource for something that is serious.  If the post was not appropriate then I believe Minti would not have allowed it.  Each of us has a different view regarding this issue.  However, my understanding of Minti was that this was a place I could come to either get advice for situtations or help to answer questions some may have or to even offer advice. 

I strongly feel this is sound advice and appreciate the different opinions.  Perhaps some viewers will read a few of the comments and get an idea on how to tackle this issue.  In the end, we are all different and do things differently but all have one thing in common.  Our children.

So I respect the decisions of those that don't allow toy guns and understand their views and hope that my post will be viewed as the resource it was intended to be.  There really should not be any arguement, instead there should have been a common feel of,  this advice may not apply to me but perhaps it will help some others that maybe have older children or help those that maybe own a gun and have children.

I really appreciate your comment and remember my dad telling us, you never even point the play gun at each other, even it was our fingers that were the gun.

xoxo



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