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4.76 (Highly recommend) from 20 votes (83 Visits)

Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

by MJB

(July 5th) (rank 500+)

My advice stems from my experiance having an abortion, but this also relates to all mothers! (Please dont debate abortion here!! I know there are strong views but its the hardest descion and one that isnt taken lightly)

When i had people i thought had my best interests

at heart whispering in my ear that an abortion would be for the best, that they would always be here if i needed to talk, i wouldn't go through this alone. I thought they knew better, older and wiser i thought....

A year after my abortion i self-destructed for another year, Mick and i barely made it through my mood swings, self-harm and violence. I realised after trying to get support from my supporting family (ha!) that:

*The person you need to take care of first is the person in the mirror- go on, grab a mirror and take a look, bew-ti-ful! of course! If you dont take care of that person staring back at you- how can you take care of anyone else? Your partner, your friends, your kids? You would of couse but if you dont take care of wonderful you then it wll start to unravel, you will be more stressed and it will make the ppl around you stressed then they will, in turn make you more stressed- nasty lil cycle! Break it NOW!

*If ppl are whispering in your ear and you dont agree with them, go grab that mirror and find some quiet to have a chat to that person in the mirror and ask the hard questions that need to be asked....i only wish i had!!

Iv only just realised that ppl wont truly be there for you in the end, in the end you spend the most time with yourself, you need to be at peace with yourself!

Hope this help... (how was my first article?)

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	July 8th \| Ravenheart

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

great advice, i wish i cared more about myself.

xoxo

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	July 7th \| Queen-Fire

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

good advice.... You always have to take care of yourself and talk to yourself over these decisions.

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	July 7th \| Juzzy

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Fantastic first article. Grat advice, it is something i have to remember to do. I have noticed when i am stressed then my kids are stressed as well.

Juzzy xx

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	July 8th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thanks Juzzy! yeah kids pick up on such alot

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	July 6th \| janicepovey

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

What a great first article, well done Mel....and oh so true, if we don't take care of ourselves first...how can we expect to take care of others.

Love the catchy heading,

Cheers Janice

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	July 7th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Thanks Janice! thats a very sweet comment

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	July 5th \| mumof2b

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

For some it takes a long time to come to terms with that person in the mirror.............but you're right, we have to ask ourselves the tough questions and answer them honestly and not just ignore them.

Well done Mel !!!!!!

Amanda xxx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Thankyou so much Amanda!

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	July 5th \| yummymummyof3

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

What an honest great first advice.... Its taken me 36 years to realise I need to love me before I can love others, I'm so glad I finally realised xx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

im so glad for u! i was told once ur like a bank if u keep handing out the money (love) and dont put any back in, you go into minus- yeah i dont really remember the bank story...anyhoo im so glad u liked the article i think iv got the article bug- il try rack my brain for anything worthwhile to post up-but only if i think its good i dont want to post just for the sake of posting! Mel ...hope ur having a great weekend!

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	July 5th \| nabutters

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

its like u need to love urself before u love anyone else....this is true....way to go on ya first article!!!!

cheers na xxx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thanks so much na! im amazed how much ppl like my first try at an article

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	July 5th \| August88

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Great advice. Something they now know is important, the carer needs to be looked after too. How can you possibly take care of others if you don't look after yourself. Thank you, short, sweet and to the point!

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Thankyou Lynnette! Sometimes us women need to be reminded to take time out =) oh and it was only short cause i was nervous lol

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	July 5th \| August88

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Short isn't a bad thing. Sometimes the longer ones I can't always get through no matter how good they are and I don't like to vote or comment til I have done that so I am not saying expand it as it is good how it is, Lynette xx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thankyou Lyn il remember that for my next article if i do one

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	July 5th \| Domestic-warrior

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

I have to agree, we take ourselves for granted way too much and often the answer to any major decision is right there within ourselves.....we just need to look for it and trust that we know what is best for us!

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thankyou for ur positive comment! Go Girl Power i say! We Rock

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	July 5th \| electrifying02

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

great bit of advice thanks for sharing

belxx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Thanks again for ur kind words Bel!

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	July 5th \| llmunchkin

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Great effort Mel... Of course the true path to happiness begins with yourself; yourself; the person who understands you best is yourself! Other's no matter how well meaning can only offer advice, YOU make all the tough decisions, and you live with them

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

perfectly said! thankyou!

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	July 5th \| boredmum

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

GREAT 1ST ARTICLE!! Great advice to sweetie. Well done.

Dee

xx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thanks so much Dee! you know ur friendship and your support means the world to me! i re-read it and i started to tear up! lol what a sook....

Luv Mel

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	July 6th \| boredmum

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Hugs Mel.

xxxxx

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	July 5th \| nell18-3

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

This is fantastic advice

Well done, please keep writing

xxx

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

thankyou so much Nell! U are such an inspiration wow uv come such a long way the compliment seems so much more special somehow now =) and it was my first i was so nervous iv had it in my head for about 3 months now and finally thought why not?? i really hope that any young girls who are faced with this will stumble across my article- thats my main reason for writing this...

Hugs Mel!

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	July 5th \| cazza

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

great first article and lovely advice..Woman in this situation need support and love not critisism.. And any of my friends or sisters had to have one, i would support them, as everyone has a right to be respected on their choices ...

xx cazza

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	July 5th \| MJB

Re: Take Care of the Person in the Mirror!

Thankyou so much Cazza! you are such a lovely support xx

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