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Angry and Resentful |
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by nell18-3  (July 10th) (rank 3rd) |
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Possibly two of the most powerful yet wasteful emotions we hold onto
And I should know
Both emotions are strong and energising
Both emotions don't help anyone !!!!
Yet still we feel we need them
Still we hold onto them and refuse 
to let go
For the last few years I have been reliant on these emotions
They are what has gotten me out of bed in the mornings
They are what has gotten me through the day
I needed them to survive
And I had good reason to feel those emotions ..............didn't I???
You know the saying
"Everything in life happens for a reason???"
Sometimes I wonder if the first time that was said, it was said by someone whose only real crisis in life was to work out how to stop burning the toast at breakfast!!!!
When really bad things happen to us, do we really care about the people that are going through worse events, do we really think its okay because some good will one day come from this............I don't think so, personally I think we feel nothing but hurt for ourselves, and thats ok we're all human
So many people are in real pain
They have been badly hurt
Things have happened and they don't know how to get through it
Being Angry and Resenting the situation can be very powerful driving forces.
Naturally there is never going to be a world where we don't feel angry or resent the misjustices that happen to ourselves or those who we care about. But to let those emotions fester in your system for as long as I did........definitely NOT constructive.
The flip side of those emotions would be Calm and Forgiving, oh how I wish !!!!
I feel I am a long way from those two !!!!!
So what can I do???
I can't stay angry, it eats away inside
I can't be calm, its not energising
I can't stay resentful, that also eats away at your insides
I'm not ready to forgive !!!!!!!
I have discovered there is another option.............
Let It Go..............
To a certain effect the last few years are what has made me who I am today, I would rather not have had that particular lesson in life but at the same time I certainly have no wish at all to be living the life I once was !!!!!!!!!! I am thrilled that part of my life is over permanently, it was a bad life and an unhappy life.
I got to thinking ........are children born sulky???
I know for a fact that sulky children are highly unpopular and highly irritating, so what does that make a sulky adult !!!!!!!
Bad and Rotten things happen to us all !!!!!!!!!
Being Angry and Resentful of the situation is a natural reaction
But holding onto those emotions for years............we are only damaging ourselves deeper
I'm one of the fortunate ones that has a belief in a higher authority and for me that has meant I can pass over all my anger and resentment at what has happened to me. I can let it go now because I believe that God will restore my balance at the injustices.
Next time we see our child have a tantrum or a sulk, instead of rushing over and disciplining them. We should all take a deep breath, take time to work out where they have learnt those reactions, is it by copying us at home?????
Not because I don't want to as I wish I could but I just can't
