ADVICE RATING |
 5.00 (Highly recommend) from 22 votes (117 Visits) |
Growing up I loved hearing things like "well done" "I'm proud of you" and "You're really good at that" It gave me a warm bubbly feeling inside.
Yes, Kids can be annoying, irritating and tireing at times and Yes, sometimes its hard to
be calm and think rationally on 2 hours sleep but try try to be positive when dicaplining your child. I see parents telling their children off for being naughty far too often, and hardly ever see them praising their children for good behaviour. Or when their child can't acheive something like riding a bike with out training wheels instead of getting frustrated try being positive and saying things like you can do it, you can do anything if you put your mind to it.
The idea to write this advice came from some recent personal experience, We have a new tree house. Its high up and to get down you need to come BACKWARDS dow a ladder.. scary stuff for a four year old. Jess had climbed up and down a few times but sliped as she came down the last time and she did not want to climb back up again. she was terrified that she may fall again. But eager to play with her older sister she climbed back up again but when it came to time to climb down again she just couldnt do it.. to scared. My partner had to climb up and drag her out of the tree house kicking and screaming as she didnt want to get down and it was getting late.
Over the next few days My partner tried to get her to climb up the tree but everytime he told her to she would run away or cry. He became frustrated after spending 2 weeks building the treehouse he wanted her to be able to use it but to him it seemed like she wouldnt even try it. He said, Jess stop being a sook. At this stage I pulled him aside and explained if we ever want jess to have the confidence to be able to do it we need to make it a POSITIVE experience for her. We agreed to build up her confidence by telling her "ITS OK THAT YOU CANT DO IT, WE LOVE YOU , AND ONE DAY YOU WILL BE ABLE TO DO IT" .
We left it for a few days, but reminded her that if she wanted to try it we'd be there for her. Then to our suprise she climbed up all by her self. We made a big deal about if telling her how brave she was and clever. Her smile was ear to ear. She loved knowing we were proud.
I think if you want something its better to go about it nicely then to be grumpy. Kids respond better to positive words.
If we take more time to praise them for being good and less time telling them of when they are bad they will be better behaved and you wont feel like the big baddie all the time!
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