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Weathering the Storm |
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by Nowhereman80  (September 10th) (rank 500+) |
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Nothing test the bonds of marriage like a good crisis. It will test the strength of the husband and the wife. Not to mention the test of fatherhood, and motherhood as well. How can you live your life together if the number one worry is how to survive day to
day. One partner spends money like there is no tomorrow, while the other tries to keep the ship afloat the best they can.
This disharmony is what causes more divorces than just about anything else. Other than not being faithful to one another. When all your accumalated wealth is just about vaporized in one blink of a second. Years of struggling for what it seems. Sometimes surviving a pyschical hardship that traumatizes a family is more easily survived than facing financial hardship. I mean how many times do stare at the phone wondering when the next call from the creditors is going to come. After a while a perputal snarl seems to be etched on your face. Your partner will at first ignore it saying to themselves that you soon will get over this situation and things will get back to normal.
After many long days and months that then roll into years nothing changes except the tolerance for each other and that is starting to wear thin. One partner may isolate themselves from the other by getting involved in different projects that requires only the involvement of one person not the other. No companionship is required. Loneliness sets in and the need for a change of scenary occurs and the man or woman, perhaps find someone else that may have same common problems. So infidelity occurs and the guilty party rationalizes that their partner did not give them the time of day. So this grass is greener on this side of the road.
The problem is the collateral damage that occurs when the marriage is crumbling. Now the kids also get caught in the sidestream of this drama and they have nothing to do with the mess that either side has caused. What is worse they make the children take sides and this crumbles the family even more. It takes a strong bond between the partners to forgive the infidelity and work things out. Likewise with financial issues; sometimes though, things cannnot just workout it is then the welfare of the children is paramount over the silly squabbles of a marriage that just did not work. To all those ladies that go at it alone my hats off to you. As well as those men who do the same thing also.
Take care,
Nowhereman80
