Hi there,

Thanks so much for your great feedback . . I love the part about us adults needing to be seen and not heard at times. . . lol

Cheers Kellz

Hi Emz,

Thanks for your feedback - ALL children deserve a right to be heard don't they . . It saddens me when I hear or see a child being silenced for no other reason than the parent not being bothered to listen . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi DA,

Thanks for the feedback . .  It is very possible to teach kids manners and respect without using the 'seen and not heard" mentality . .  Each time our children use thier manners they are showing us respect because its something we have taught them and there are many other signs of respect, you just need to look . . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi honey,

Thanks for you feedback . .  Looks like we are in agreement again as I too believe passionately that ALL children should be seen and heard .  I also believe that teaching kids about repsect etc is a totally seperate issue and that this can be taught easily without using the 'seen and not heard'  . . .

I am often shocked to amazed to see just how many children withdraw into themselves as they either fear speaking up or are simply confused as to where thier place may be . . . My girls know that they can talk openly and honestly without fear of being ignored, they also know that they should respect the time and place and act appropriately . . I, like others of my generation are raising happy, healthy and loving children . . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi there,

Thanks so much for your feedback . . . I see where you are coming from and in part I do agree, sometimes parents don't think about just what thier children can hear when they are having chats etc with other adults. This then often leads to children talk inappropriately and causing friction. . .  Children are very clever and can take parts of 'grownup' conversations and often use them inappropraitely . . This does NOT mean that they should be 'seen and not heard' but in fact means that parents should infact 'think and be child wise'

Cheers Kell

i do agree with you here, even tho i was always brought up never being able to speak and only heard. I have allowed my kids be heard BUT at a time and place! They have wonderful manners and respect for adults. They were always told to respect their elders....

like I said there is a fine line between abuse and disapline. allowing children to speak is god, but they have to have they permission for it.

I find it very rude f u are trying to talk to someone and a child comes along and starts talking. simple maners and then they are spoken to.

Just because I have this rule dosent mean my kids are drawn in or lost souls, they are very talkative and will chew ur ear off if you allow them to, BUT they know if they are told to be quiet it is quiet time. they know to ask if they can speak.

Again simple maners and a lot of respect to go along with it. a simple thank you, please, may i ca go a very long way

totally agree with you here rukia.

children should be listened to and respected but they should also show respect to adults and be polite.

i hate it when kids think its their right to interupt adult conversation or even be included when is not appropriate, i really dont like it when kids come over have a room full of toys to play with and other kids to chat to and they sit on their mums lap and have to butt in constantly and listen in.

in LIFE we all have to wait our turn and learn the world doesnt revolve around us, parents raise PEOPLE not kids forever and respect is something we need to teach and how to be capable in the real world.

i do not ignore my kids and im very interested in what they have to say and i will listen when they need me but i dont want to be chatting to a friend and have the " muuuuuuuuuum" s over a toy or a tv show.

i think both sides of the seen and not heard debate are tru it just depends on how you see it.

Indeed!!! and agree but must add one thing though,  i think it all depends on the kids age.

Hi Naomi,

Thanks so much for your feedback . .  Sadly there are so many of us that grew nder the 'seen and not heard' umbrella and it has effected us all in many ways but the most common thing by far is how we the next generation have mostly refused to do this to our own children.

I think the key here is to find the right balance, this is sometimes easier said than done but the fact that we keep trying just shows how great we are at being parents . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi there,

Thanks for your feedback . . I am sorry to read that you are still having problems speaking up but I do also understand it. I myself came from an abusive home and it took me a long time to learn how to be heard. The biggest thing is to learn to trust in yourself and that is sometimes the hardest of all. . .

As for your daughter - I am sorry that you feel that she has shit on you . .  I myself have a very rebellious 17 yr old who has no hesitation in making herself heard and sometimes it is not in a good way . .  BUT on a positive note I am blessed as it really does show that she loves me as she has no hesitation in unloading on me. . . . I also know that when the chips are down she will come running to me . . .

I know you feel hurt but try and find the positives . . .

cheers Kellz

Hi Mony,

Thanks for your feedback but honey I am no angel . .  I am just me . . .   I hope that by reading what I have written that you are able to deal with whatever it is that you are trying to deal with . . You are a passionate mum and I am sure that you will do what you need to do for all your children.

Cheers Kellz

Hi Naya,

Thanks for your feedback and also for sharing your own personal story . .  I am so truly sorry that you were raised in that enviroment BUT on a positive note you seem to havetaken that on board and are not raising your children in that manner . .  I wish you well in the future with your own children and I hope that through them you will be able to spread your wings and grow . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi there,

Thanks so much for your feddback . .  It seems that like your mother you are passing one the values that really count. Well done, I am sure that you have confident and muchly loved children that know how to empathise with others.

cheers Kellz

Hi Cazza,

Thanks for you feedback . . With us both coming from abusive homes we have learnt the hard way just how important children are . . .

Cheers Kellz

Hi there,

Thanks for you feedback, as you have probably noticed I am very passionate about children . . .

Cheers Kellz