Re: advice please
anonymous

Question:

i need to know is it ok to take food off a toddler if they wont sit to eat it after being told to sit repeadedly? my other half dose it to my daughter but not the two older

boys. he seems to think the sun shines out of them they never do anything wrong and my daughter it seems can never do anything right by him.

ta sorry for anon.

My Advice:

1st of all, talk to your hubby and let him know how you feel...

Otherwise, consistency is all you need to enforce, kids will rebel just like adults when they think things are not fair.

I have always been one for having the family sit down for a meal, or at least this was the case when they were younger...now they dont sit still long enough and I am just happy to have them home any time at all.

I am not sure that taking the main meal off a child is the right thing to do as they may end up using it to their advantage when they are presented with something they do no fancy. I would be opting to forgo sweets or some other treat, toy, TV...you get the message..

Be stearn, be fair and stick to your guns...teach your kids "TOGETHER" right from wrong and you will be a long way down the track to doing all that is possible.

When being stearn, make sure it is in a calm collective manner that shows the child that you are not getting angry but mean what you say and act on it so that they know you mean business.

Otherwise, this topic has been broached many times on Minti with eatiing habits and I would also recommend that you adjust your childs food intake during the day to ensure that the food is the main interest at the completion of the day.

Alternatively, you may let you child graze throughout the day and not be overly concerned with the evening meal but it is my belief that children stand to learn much by interacting with the rest of the family as much as our busy lives allow.

But like I said, talk to your Hubby and work out some solutions otherwise this will continue to fester inside.

Bringing up a family is indeed hard most of the time but we have to get it right. Pass or fail is not measured in a percentage but by effort given.

My 20 cents worth but I hope some of it makes sence.

Wishing you all the best.

Rob Alman