I'll send you an invite to cherubs. My story is on there as well as others. I've been thru 3 miscarriages and have had children after. You sound like you need counselling which will help you deal with the pain and help you get thru another pregnancy. It's difficult, and your body is reacting to the loss. My periods where all over the place for 6mths and more for the cherub that we lost at 19wks. You may need to go on an anti depressant for awhile. It really helped my anxiety and got me through my 7th pregnancy. Dealing with your loss will help you fall pregnant and get you through. I'm always around if want to talk or ask Q's. You can also ask Q's thru cherubs. I'm sure everyone there will more than happy to lend their support.

Drop me line anytime.

Raven

i understand what you are going through, it took us nearly 2 years of trying to fall preg,

this may sound silly but have you had your neck and back checked by a chhiropractor? i know of a few ladies who were having no luck concieving and they fell preg quite soon after having their backs adjusted, also i would recomend really really working on letting the past go, from personal experience if you havent dealt with it you may find will find that it will keep haunting the new pregnacy, as it did for me,

please drop me a line if you want to talk

Hun, have you dealt with your loss properly?  If you haven't, the psychological impact of that can prevent conception.  You need to deal with your loss, and move forward.  Subconciously, you could have fears about it happening again, and those subconcious fears will override your body every time, unless you deal with them.

The other thing is, the harder you try, the less it will happen.  Get out in the garden and start planting away and give you and your partner a break from the bedroom for a while.  There is anecdotal evidence that women who spend a lot of time in the garden, nurturing plants etc, will be more receptive to pregnancy.  Not sure if it is true, but that's a good reason for me to stay out of the garden.  If I could, I'd give my fertility to you, I've had my brood and stress every month now in case I do get pregnant.

There are groups here that can help you deal with your loss.  Just do a search through the groups page for one that suits you best.  And remember, your loss was not because you did anything wrong, so don't hold onto any guilt!

Hi,  I haven't experienced any trouble myself, but I have a few friends who did.  They all went down different paths.  One couple started pre-IVF, even though they both were tested as normal.  Eventually they stopped, because it was very stressful for them, and they conceived naturally very soon afterwards.

Another couple went to a naturopath, who advised them on ways to strengthen their own health, and make their bodies as ready as possible for conception.  They also conceived within a few months.

From talking to people, I've come to understand that being stressed reduces your chance of getting pregnant, and when you give up trying, and start to relax, that's when you have your best chance.  I would guess that losing a baby would be very traumatic and add to the stress of trying to have another.

Once again, I'm no expert on the subject, but I hope this helps a bit.

Have you tried an ovulation kit? you can buy them from the supermarket and from about the 10 day of your cycle start testing yourself until you have a LH surge then have sex and hopefully this will work.  Have you and your partner had your hormones checked?  Maybe make an appointment with your GP to get checked out.  I wish you well, and hang in there.

hi. i took 2 1/2 years to conceive the first time, also with irregular periods, watching everyone around me get pregnant.  feel free to minti mail me.  i have also written about my experiences that you might be able to relate to as well as some advice on trying to conceive with irregular cycles.  hope you get your happy ending too.  there is also a group for those trying to conceive which may offer some support.

take care

xx josie