Thank you all for your answers the reason I wrote this was because I couldn't get hold of him to come home and help, I then found out he had been taken to the police station for an unpaid fine. All this advice was good but today was much better, and my son slept for most of the night last night so he is all good today. My 4 month old slept most of the night too.

But as the 3 of us are all sick it is hard on me and the kids my OH is lucky he doesnt get sick often. I wrote this annonymously for my own reasons at the time.

Thank you all very much for your very non judgemental comments.

Cheers Queenie

xoxoxoxoxoxoxo

 Because you wrote this anonymous, I'm not sure where you are but I feel you need help....have you family or a friend you can ring and have them pay you a visit.  . If your in Australia you could ring Life Line  13 11 14 they have counsellors on hand just to talk to about any situation.

Looking after two little ones when you are feeling well is a big job, but when your feeling unwell everything seems to magnify and can be overwhelming. Josie has given you avice on your 4 month old to do with the bump on the head and has she take some deep breaths, calm down, children pick up on our emotions, put both children to bed and go and have a nice soak in a lovely warm bath.

Nice of your OH for going out for the day, maybe tomorrow he can pull his weight and look after the children while you have some quiet time to yourself to recharge your batteries, we all need this from time to time.

Please keep us informed of how your doing, I am concerned about you.

It is tough being Mommy all the time to two babies.   Lots of reasons to feel over whelmed.  But at two years old, that is still a baby and it sounds like you are caught up in going round and round.  You need to break out of what isn't working for you and try to relax and be calm. Kiddies so reflect your moods.  If you are calmer and do not yell than you will probably see a behaviour change.   Sounds like you need some support and time off, if only a moment to yourself.  Amazing what that will do to refresh you.  Have you looked for groups in your area to take the kiddies to?  Some times just a walk will help. It is quite soon after the birth of your youngest, I hope you are taking care of yourself too.  Things will get better, but looking for help is a great first step. Best of luck.

hi. paediatric nurse here.  hope I can offer some relief.  You don't have to stop your 2 year old from sleeping.  he can have his usual naps.  what you need to be wary of is if he seems to be more sleepy than usual, seems confused or 'spaced out', displays unusual behaviour, not responding to you, if he vomits or has seizures.  Any of these symptoms can be a sign of bleeding on the brain (subdural haematoma) and should be seen to straight away.

have you got someone you can call on to help you while you get this under control? (friend, family member) take a deep breath, remind yourself that it will be better soon and tomorrow will be better.

stop screaming- it takes up precious energy, focus on the settling of your kids first, then worry about discipline and housework once you have regained some control.  have a quiet cuddle, read them a book and send them to bed.

If your 2 year old's symptoms change, call for futher advice or send him to hospital.

I wish you luck.

xx josie

They said today not tonight put him down for a sleep and keep an eye on him. Worst comes to worst, put bubs in his cot, put 2 year old in a room with his toys where he can't hurt himself and go outside for 2 mins in the peace and quiet and take deep breaths.

i agree with the previous advice, also stuff the housework , if it keeps him happy and gives you a bit of a break do it later or tomorrow or  get the other half to do it when he gets home..

I have only ever heard of keeping a child awake for an hour after a bump to the head not 24 hrs. As long as now he is moving about fine and no dizziness or nausea then he should?? be okay. I know the feeling and about the only thing that works for me is make sure they are safe and go in another room calm down, relax, read, breathe, anything for a while five -ten minutes or so, let them whinge, ignore them. Every mother on here I bet has the same feling at some time or another. Take a few panadol as well so you don't feel so heavy headed with a cold. if you think the two year old is quite well put him to sleep!!!lol. There is a fact sheet on the royal children haospital melbourne website on head injuries in children that says that they need'nt be kept awake at all.http:// www.rch.org.au/kidsinfo/factsheets.cfm?doc_id=3728