Its been 12 months it still pops into my head some days, not as often now though  - so I guess it takes time 

 good luck

Thankyou for your time and answers it helps and I really appreciate your honesty. I know this will take time I'm just a little impatient perhaps, thankyou again.

I haven't got any experience with infidelity but several years ago my partner kept chasing other girls and I know after a while it really started to get to me. We worked everything out, ended up moving in together, getting engaged and having a child but I know what it's like to be constantly thinking whether he was going to do it again. I think at just 2 months it's still a bit raw for you. It took a solid 12 months of my fiance' proving himself to me before I was able to convince myself that he wouldn't do it again. And my behaviour got out of control, I started trying to check up on him, reading his E-mails, remembering the girls phone number and texting them for myself later on. His behaviour was destructive and mine was equally destructive. From my experience with that, he needed to prove himself to me and I needed to be willing to put the past behind me and move forward or we would always fight about it and eventually it would have ended our relationship. All I can honestly say is it takes time, it takes many months or even years of solid proof that your partner is behaving before your heart can heal and he earns your trust back and it also takes yourself to try and not bring the past up and instead concentrate on what is happening now and enjoying your time together now. If you can't put it behind you and move forward then it may even be a bigger problem than the cheating, perhaps you might even have trust issues from your childhood that haven't been resolved yet. Good luck, I have friends who have worked through infidelity. Some were strong enough to move forward and start a new life together and others ended in divorce. I can't imagine how hurtful it must  be for you.

I've never been through infidelity in a marriage but I watched a movie called Fireproof with Kirk Cameron. It dealt with this sort of thing and how to solve it by fireproofing your marriage. It's a teaching drama if that makes sense. I don't know if it will help you but my hubby and I learned alot from it. Theres too much in it to write it all out. I hope it helps you, we are fire proofing our marriage even more as a result of watching it and are following it's principles.

Cheers Raven