just treat her the age she is skills wise. if she behaves like a 4 year old then treat her as such. my daughter (almost 3 now) is quite bright with language skills including bits and pieces of a second language (japanese) can recognise many numbers and letters and could hold a proper conversation at around 12 months. she is showing signs of reading readiness aswell so she gets treated at her skill level. my son was the same with mathematics. many children are gifted your daughter sounds exceptionally so. i would recomend looking into alternative schooling for her which will let her move ahead at her own pace (the name of the method escapes me now but it starts with "m") and early childhood schooling aswell. this could involve attending a playgroup for gifted children or simply purchasing homeschooling books for her a couple of years ahead. i did this with my son (bought grade 1 material for when i homeschooled him in kindy and he managed well with two hours of it a day). hope this helps. ::)'s becca!

My younger sister was the same.  She was talking properly by 18 months and was reading by the age of 3, not basic reading either.

She was given a special spot at school for early entrants because she was so bright and keeping her at home was impossible.  Daycare was also way too boring for her because of her brightness- the staff didn't know how to deal with her.

I'm not sure how you are going to set boundaries, but she sounds like she would understand a rewards chart very well.

Hi you could match her skills up with a child development program - You can use this to see what age she is at physically (fine & gross motor), socially, emotionally, cognitively, creativity, language. When you know what age she is at in each of those areas, you can find age appropriate activities to create development strategies to keep up. Her teacher should be trained in this area already if you wish to discuss it with her, it's a prerequisite for children's services. I recently-ish did a 10 page assignment on this where one of the children in the scenario was a gifted child - if you want me to send it to you just send me a pm. You can find all of this info online anyway and develop your own strategies.