Every mum or dad needs a break now and then to relax and relieve some stress. The children would also benefit from having a babysitter from time to time to see that they get used to being with other people aswell or you will find when you have to leave them for some reason maybe be a doctors appointment or another appointment  that if they are used to this situation it will be easier on yourself and them. Sometimes it is good to have a break even if it is to have a coffee with your friends remember you are not just a mum you are a young woman who should keep her social network. All of us Mum's are guilty of putting the kids first but you have to think about your happiness and things you would like to do aswell.

 We all need some my space or a break, even if it is only to have a  few  of hours to do nothing at all or to do some things just for you. You don't say whether or not you are living with your parents???? If they are not prepared to help you by minding your children which is a bit mean.  Have you a friend who could help, if not maybe a visit to your local Community Centre to see what sort of services they have, that might help you out.

I hope you can sort something out so you can have a break.

Off cours you need a break. The only time I get a break is when my parents look after my daughter is wen I am at TAFE or if I have to go to doctors appoitments every other time I hace to look after them but every parent needs a well deserved break.

Totally agree, having some time to yourself is important for you and your childrens wellbeing. I spend saturday arvo's at my bff's house to unwind. Hubby and I try to have date nites every so often too. Your a better parent when you get that couple hrs away from everything, you come back refreshed and ready to face kids.

My grandma is of the same opinion, she reckons I shouldn't be on the net talking to ppl, that she never had a social life and neither should I, I reminded her that it's 2009 not 1950 and if I want a social life I'll have one! At least I'm taking care of my kids and not down the pub!!!!!

Cheers Raven

Ps have a break you do deserve it (I was gonna say have a kit kat too!)

you defenatly deserve some time to your self taking care of your children is hard work, you need a little bit of you time so you can de stress and relax, it will do you and your kids the world of good to have a break from each other so you will all be happier...

Of course you do.  Everyone needs a break from everything now and again.  It will do you and your kids  the world of good, as you'll be happier and then in turn your kids will be.

If your parents arn't happy to do a bit of babysitting, maybe look in some occasionaly care, I know the one near me does 1hr for $6 and it gets cheaper depending on how many kids you put it.  Even an hour a week will help keep you sane.

Wish you the best.

Oh how silly of them. Every parent deserves a break both mum and dad every once in a while. It helps you to de-stress, build romance and make your relationship stronger and to appreciate the time you do spend with your children even more. Perhaps they just don't want the responsibility of being active grandparents and as such are pushing the blame back on to you. People see their own strengths and insecurities in others.

I think it is good for you to get a break now and then, and it is good for the kids too to have significant others in their life they are looked after by. You certainly do have a lot less me time when the kids come along  so you need to make some. Maybe there is some reason your parents felt the need to say something to you so try to come to an agreement with them with how often they would like to have them over and for how long so you both are clear. Other then it impacting on them it is just their opinion. Some people just have different ideas about what they feel is acceptable and it must hurt having that come from your parents, but I feel that it is good to have some time away from the kids.

Absolutely! Everyone deserves a break from time to time or you will break. Seriously, I have been on the brink of breaking and its not a nice place o be, I slipped into pretty bad depression which I have pulled myself from by being proactive and doing something for myself. I returned to school and further my education and am studying vet nursing which I have also just recieved a job from and I love it. I can't wait to get out and go to work or school. Its the best thing I ever did. I also made more time to spend with friends either it be with or without the kids in tow and I also now attempt to find a little more time for my hobbies.

You could start off with small things for youre time, like going for a walk - its a proven fact that 1/2 an hr of sun and fresh air along with exercise boosts levels of feel good hormones and reduces stress! Try going out for a coffee with a friend with out the kids or get with  friend who also has kds and go to the park together. You could get involved with some sort of group activity or into a hobby on your own. I gather from your question your parents are living with you and your family and if this is actually the case, tell them, if they expect that sort of care perhaps it is time they moved into a retirement village of some sort where that care is able to be bought! You have a family to take care of and mst importantly, you have a you to take care of! if you break who will care for them then, of for you for that matter. Hope you sort it out and that your parents wake up to your probelems b4 it comes to some serious call. xx.